Sex & you

Sex & you
Showing posts with label erectile dysfunctions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label erectile dysfunctions. Show all posts

Saturday, January 17, 2015

The secrets of male satisfaction

Let’s be honest – modern men are a little bit insecure and confused especially when it comes to bedroom activities. Sexual life of men has many enemies and some of them include – lack of libidosexual desire, erectile dysfunctions, fear that they will not meet the expectations from their partner etc. The causes are different for each man, but one is more apparent than the rest. It looks like women care less what their partners want in bed, while men do not dare to publicly expose their desires.

In order to get out of this dead end, women need to take a step back and consider what their partners naturally like and don’t dare to ask, what stimulates their desire and what they would like to do. All of this could be possible if women broke their cultural heritage that teaches them that they want an active and powerful, yet careful and gentle man. Many sexologists suggest that modern men are carrying a heavy burden – they must always be ready and prepared. But, there is a solution which comes in the form of love and emotions. Rediscovering these feelings is the right way to start. If a man is able to do that he ceases to be insecure, passive and frightened. They recognize their own instincts and faithfully follow these instincts without fear of being characterized as crude and vulgar. So, the solution lies in understanding, knowledge of the male pleasure mechanism.

Many studies and surveys have confirmed that the taste of men has not changed. It is a well known fact that the stronger erection is still falling on erotic images. This means that the look is the first stimulation involved in male pleasure and satisfaction. Watching their partner taking her clothes off and her naked body is an exciting foreplay for many men. So, indulge yourself on his look with the lights on, highlight your sex appeal in beautiful underwear and his sexual desire will be awakened. Another thing that most men really like is quick sex. So, what to do if he proposes quick and even a bit wild sex? Simply, let them do it and you will understand that at that moment that is his strongest desire. If you please him he will look at sex like fun activity and he will be really happy. It doesn’t make any sense to strongly condemn his desire, it is better to accept his request as a game and as an integral part of life.

Men love to be touched and massaged too. In this way they feel like they are in the center of your attention. The tenderness that you provide in the bed creates great comfort and satisfaction even when he doesn’t admit or give back. According to Oriental knowledge, sexual energy points are located on the ribs in the middle of the chest. By lightly pressuring these points you will be able to perform a stimulating massage. Another hot spot is located on the soles of the feet. The feet are sensitive erogenous zone although very often people don’t pay enough attention to this area.

Keep in mind that men don’t have much understanding and will for creativity, unless it is their proposal. Over some period of time men relax and gain confidence and this is the moment when you can take the imitative 

Monday, June 23, 2014

Sex after a Stroke

Sexuality is really different after a stroke. There are some consequences and those who want to experience normal life after a stroke should be aware of them.

Strokes are responsible for over 15% of deaths in developed countries and the numbers are higher in undeveloped countries. 3 out of 10 patients that have experienced a stroke have permanent consequences although most of them don’t need help with their everyday activities. Around 20% of these patients need help with at least one daily activity and some of them need institutional help. More severe cases of stroke leave patients with severe disabilities.

Stroke (cerebrovascular accident (CVA)) is a disease that dramatically impacts the life of those who are suffering from it and also the lives of the people that leave with that person. In some cases it can destroy the balance between the partners that existed before. A stroke usually affects the walking, senses, emotional life and even mutual understanding between partners. All these things can significantly affect the sexual life.

When it comes to stroke and erectile dysfunction, nearly 8 in 10 men experience them but the good thing is that they usually disappear after few months (without any special treatment for sexual dysfunction). However, many couples have difficulties in their bed years after the stroke occurred. A special kind of problems can be caused by urinal difficulties that usually appear after a stroke.  Psychological factors such as low self-esteem can also impact the sex life and they are often caused by antidepressant intake. Sexuality and relationship with the partner can cause emotional difficulties and behavioral changes like apathy, explosiveness etc. Many people fear that being sexually active again could lead to another stroke and that’s why they avoid sexual intercourse. These fears are not based on facts and they are just irrational. In some cases partners have to find another way of communication. This is a factor that can really complicate sexuality after stroke because some people have difficulties to speak and even understand other people.

Stroke can hit different regions of the brain. In some cases, it may damage the area of sexuality. Stroke can also affect the hypothalamus, region of the brain that is managing the actions of the hormones. In rare cases this damage can lead to a reverse process where the stroke sufferer has increased sexual desire and it can even lead to unusual/inappropriate sexual behavior.

The biggest problem is the rejection of the current situation and a strong desire to return in the time before the stroke happened. By accepting the current situation, patients can have faster progress in their life. The fear that the stroke sufferer will be rejected by his or her partner is strong but the truth is that the other partner can more easily accept the physical changes compared to the psychological changes.

In some cases there is a link between pregnancy and stroke. Stroke can be a result of taking birth control pills. Women during pregnancy are facing three times higher risk of stroke. However this last claim is rejected by some researchers and this is an area that still needs to be explored.