Sex & you

Sex & you

Monday, July 16, 2018

How To Make Her Your 'Love Slave'

The thought of having a submissive lover is probably at the top of every man's wish list. That's certainly the case for every single one of my friends and me.

And the interesting - and awesome - thing is that the grand majority of women want to submit. Most of them will never actually say it out loud, but they are ready and willing to submit to the man who can comfortably and competently take the lead.

But even when I had a good amount of sex experience under my belt, I still didn't know how to take the lead and dominate my sex partner.

The thought of holding her hair and pulling it back, or to tie her up and blindfold her was an extreme turn on for me. But I was simply afraid that she would not only stop me but that she would probably slap me across the face and never want to see me again.

Little did I know that literally 99% of women love having their hair pulled during sex... as long as you don't try to yank her hair out of her skull. The same thing goes for tying her up and blindfolding her.

No matter how reserved she may seem at first, there is an inner freak that is just begging to be unleashed as long as you are ready and able to handle it.
So, let's talk about that a bit...

If you want your woman to submit to you and become your personal "love slave," you have to do two things.

It may sound overly simple, but you can't let the simplicity of it fool you. You have to understand that these two steps are very powerful and can work with any woman as long as you're ready for it.

Step 1: Have a genuine sexual desire to satisfy her, and then do it.
I've said this before, I'll say it again, and probably again in the future: If you take the time and effort to make sure that she has an orgasm before you, she would be willing to do whatever you want her to.
Do you want to tie her up? Do you want to pull her hair? Spank her? Choke her?
The chances are that you can do all of those things as long as you ensure that she has her orgasm first. (And I'm talking about a real, hair-raising, toe-curling, and intense orgasm)
There is nothing more powerful than a sexually satisfied woman.

Step 2: "Tread Softly" and check for feedback
If you've never slept with your partner before, you probably don't want to bring out the whips and the chains just yet. If she's letting you spank her, it probably doesn't mean that she wants you to stick your finger in her butt.

Whatever you want to try, you have to "test" the idea first by doing a very light version of the idea, and then check for her reaction to see if you should continue or not.

For example, if you want to stick a vibrator in her butt ultimately, you have first to rub your finger across her anus while you're having sex to see how she reacts to it. If she squirms and says, "No!" then you know that you probably shouldn't continue.

But if she doesn't shut you down right away, then you can continue to stroke it. Then slowly and gently begin to slide your finger in only up to the first knuckle. Then you stop here and continue your vaginal stroke.

If she is enjoying it, you'll either hear her moan, or you'll feel lubrication coming from her anus. This can be a sign that you can push your finger deeper. But if you want to be even more careful, you can just ask her how she likes it.

This can apply to anything pulling her hair, tying her up, using toys, etc.
Just remember consensual sex is good sex.