Sex & you

Sex & you
Showing posts with label lack of libido. Show all posts
Showing posts with label lack of libido. Show all posts

Saturday, January 17, 2015

The secrets of male satisfaction

Let’s be honest – modern men are a little bit insecure and confused especially when it comes to bedroom activities. Sexual life of men has many enemies and some of them include – lack of libidosexual desire, erectile dysfunctions, fear that they will not meet the expectations from their partner etc. The causes are different for each man, but one is more apparent than the rest. It looks like women care less what their partners want in bed, while men do not dare to publicly expose their desires.

In order to get out of this dead end, women need to take a step back and consider what their partners naturally like and don’t dare to ask, what stimulates their desire and what they would like to do. All of this could be possible if women broke their cultural heritage that teaches them that they want an active and powerful, yet careful and gentle man. Many sexologists suggest that modern men are carrying a heavy burden – they must always be ready and prepared. But, there is a solution which comes in the form of love and emotions. Rediscovering these feelings is the right way to start. If a man is able to do that he ceases to be insecure, passive and frightened. They recognize their own instincts and faithfully follow these instincts without fear of being characterized as crude and vulgar. So, the solution lies in understanding, knowledge of the male pleasure mechanism.

Many studies and surveys have confirmed that the taste of men has not changed. It is a well known fact that the stronger erection is still falling on erotic images. This means that the look is the first stimulation involved in male pleasure and satisfaction. Watching their partner taking her clothes off and her naked body is an exciting foreplay for many men. So, indulge yourself on his look with the lights on, highlight your sex appeal in beautiful underwear and his sexual desire will be awakened. Another thing that most men really like is quick sex. So, what to do if he proposes quick and even a bit wild sex? Simply, let them do it and you will understand that at that moment that is his strongest desire. If you please him he will look at sex like fun activity and he will be really happy. It doesn’t make any sense to strongly condemn his desire, it is better to accept his request as a game and as an integral part of life.

Men love to be touched and massaged too. In this way they feel like they are in the center of your attention. The tenderness that you provide in the bed creates great comfort and satisfaction even when he doesn’t admit or give back. According to Oriental knowledge, sexual energy points are located on the ribs in the middle of the chest. By lightly pressuring these points you will be able to perform a stimulating massage. Another hot spot is located on the soles of the feet. The feet are sensitive erogenous zone although very often people don’t pay enough attention to this area.

Keep in mind that men don’t have much understanding and will for creativity, unless it is their proposal. Over some period of time men relax and gain confidence and this is the moment when you can take the imitative 

Friday, May 2, 2014

Few things you should know about vaginal dryness

If your vagina doesn’t get enough moisture during the sexual intercourse it is very likely that you will experience unpleasant pain and even damages inside the vagina. Dry vagina is not only bad for you but it is also bad for your partner because he might experience pain and damages on the penis. In some cases the reason for this dryness is the fast foreplay and longer foreplay seems like a logical solution. Your partner can also use his tongue or saliva in order to penetrate more easily. It is completely natural that you will have certain problems with dryness during the menstrual period, because for example the tampon itself dries the vagina. That’s why you shouldn’t worry about the dryness during this period. 

Lack of wetness in vagina doesn’t always mean that you are having low sex drive. Sometimes there are periods when you are simply not that wet down there and using various products can help you. The best natural lubricant is of course the saliva but if you are having bigger problems you can use some other lubricants. Having sex with a condom that is already lubricated is another option. However you should be careful with the penetration – the penetration should be slow no matter what you use. If the vagina gets dry during the sex ask your partner to pull the penis out and use saliva for moisturizing.

When a woman reaches menopause it is a completely different situation. In these cases we are talking about hormonal changes and according to some statistics more than 20% of women have troubles with vaginal dryness during this period. We are talking about serious physical changes in the genitals and the urinary tract as well. During this period the estrogen levels are getting lower and the vaginal walls produce fewer fluids. It is very important that the partner fully understands this change and be patient. The vaginal dryness doesn’t mean lack of libido and low sex drive. If you don’t understand this change you will probably create an additional emotional problem. The vagina during menopause can still get wet but it takes more time. That’s why you should extend the time of the foreplay and you will see that the vagina will have the necessary moisture after a while.

How exactly can you moisten your vagina? Experts suggest avoiding bath oils, scented soaps, sprays and wipes for washing the vagina, because they can easily irritate the vagina and cause even more problems. It is also important to avoid decongestants and antihistamine products that are known for their role in vaginal dryness. You should use gels based on water which can be used on and inside the vagina and on your partner’s penis too. They don’t have any side effects and they are easy to apply. Having regular sexual intercourses is another useful thing in your fight against dryness, because these intercourses keep the blood flow in the genital area. If none of these things works consult a doctor.

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Converse for a better sex life

Communication is key in any relationship. Communication about sex can be difficult; even though most adults participate, they still find it difficult to discuss it. One of the key issues in discussion is embarrassment. Secondary is that women typically use more words than a man, often these words can be large or complicated which are just a bit harder to be processed. The last most common problem is fear.

Embarrassment is hard to overcome, the most important thing to remember is that there is a very good chance your partner has some changes they would like to make in their sex life. While some people find it no problem to talk about sex, others find it a very awkward topic. There is nothing wrong with telling your partner you are embarrassed about the topic. Using code words, or scientific names might be easier for you. Some people prefer Penis or Vagina; others find it easier to talk about Clams and Sausages,

Women use larger words and more of them. While men are often straight to the point, “wanna have sex tonight” women are usually more subtle and this can be a problem for others to understand. Women may be lack of libido than men, you may need to heat up the situation. Women also tend to use technical terms. While men are usually pretty astute on sexual position, women still baffle them on occasion. Men do not ask for directions in a car, forget about in the bedroom. Be clear and use simple tears. “I’d like you to rub my breasts while we fuck” is a clear message; nothing will be lost in transition. “Using I wish you touched me more in the bedroom” is vague and may not get the effects you want.

Fear of rejection is last. This is especially hard if you are interested in something ‘out there’ or taboo. It is better to be honest, make it clear that your sexual desire do not have to happen but you are interested. Trying new positions is just the start. Ice, heat, restraints and toys are all possible acts to spice up your love life. If you find it difficult to just broach the subject, one way is to locate a porn movie with the acts you are interested in, while the movie is playing a simple comment like “that looks interesting” or “we should give that a try” usually will spark a conversation, or action.

Communication is always key, everyone communicates differently, but the basics remain, be clear about your needs and wants. Do not expect to get everything you want while giving nothing your partner wants. Compromise is key; a conversation can lead nowhere if compromise is not an option.

Sunday, March 2, 2014

Low Testosterone Levels Affect Sexual Performance

Sex is a natural activity that takes place between two people who are attracted to each other. There are those who have lots of casual sex with various partners and there are those who have sex with just one person that they are committed to. Either way, there will come a point in time when age will catch up with a man and make it more difficult for him to get aroused. Not only does this lower a man’s self esteem, but it can also frustrate his partner who is not getting any sexual satisfaction because of his impotence. Once the impotence begins, then it eventually turns into depression for the man and woman together. Then they’ll start taking antidepressants to try to feel better, but it will only make them feel worse in the end. Plus, antidepressants have a negative side effect towards sexual health because it increases the likelihood of impotence in men.


What many men fail to realize is that their low sex drive can be attributed to the low levels of testosterone in their body. As we get older, the male body produces less testosterone hormones than it did when it was younger. A man is supposed to produce about 20 times more testosterone than a woman, so if that number is lower than the man will experience many unpleasant symptoms. After all, testosterone is responsible for increasing the sex drive and even the thoughts of having sex. Men with high level of testosterone will also have other characteristics, such as self confidence and assertiveness. Testosterone has even been known to treat depression in both men and women. As you can see, being able to produce more testosterone has many benefits. That is why more men every year are taking testosterone supplements in order to help their body increase its testosterone levels, which will then increase its sex drive. 

But, it’s not just men either. Women are also taking these supplements as they get older as well. Testosterone levels in women decrease in age just like men. This causes women to experience lack of libido, fatigue, hot flashes and even weight gain. So, if they take sex pill supplements then these negative feelings will go away and their sexual libidos will greatly increase. That is why all older couples who don’t have a high sex drive should consider taking testosterone supplements because it will likely solve the problem. Just ask your doctor about getting a prescribed testosterone supplement, so that they can give you the proper dosage that your body is missing. You can buy over-the-counter testosterone supplements, but the problem with those is that you don’t know how much testosterone your body needs. A physical examination by a medical professional will make sure you get the right dosage. Then you can enjoy a nice healthy sexlife in your golden years with your partner. 

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

Sex life after 50 is the best

You may not believe in what you read but it's an article that tells you why sex life at 50 is the best. I have my doubt with the article as well, I don't agree with some of the point, but some reasons does make sense. For example, it mention that at the age of 50, their pressure is much lesser. You may have lots of dream and target you want to achieve in life at age of 30, when you are almost retired, you may not need to worry so much and spend time with your partner rather than in the office. The pressure from work, finance is much lesser. At the age of 50, your children may graduated from college and you don't need to worry much about their expenses, you don't need to get a part time job just to pay their college fees. The time that you spend on work last time may now be your rest time and focus more with your partner.

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The article mention about self confidence may increase as you know more about yourself, I assume that the sex knowledge is better, and you know more about your body as well. But confidence, the physical part is going down, is it going to be more confidence than before? It depends on yourself as well, so since the physical part is not going to be good why not just improve your sexual performance by learning more about other technique and sex knowledge. The internet can always help you to learn all these knowledge about better sex.

At the age of 50, you have more time for yourself. You have no pressure from work and have more time for yourself, you can now spend more time with your partner to enjoy life more, I believe that it's one of the good quality for better sex. When you have more time to learn about sex knowledge, you have more time to learn about your partner, you won't need to rush for anything, and you have more time to learn about your own body, you are able to have more intense orgasm compare to your younger age.

To read more about this article, go to Huffinton Post

The only problem at senior age is lack of libido and sex drive, you may rest well and exercise more to keep your health.