Sex & you

Sex & you

Friday, August 3, 2018

Making That Vacation Sex Work

So you’ve worked round the clock trying to make ends meet to provide for your family and also go on that vacation you deserve. You’ve also noticed how difficult it is to keep a sexual routine with your partner because of how busy you can get. She hardly complains, because you guys have had discussions on vacation, and have made plans. It’s been a while you’ve been on vacation; it’s also been a while you’ve had a romantic getaway with your partner and you are wondering how to rekindle the lust between both of you while on vacation. Here are four ways to ensure you get enough of each other on that trip:

Location matters
What location have you picked for your vacation? Somewhere close to home or another country? How romantic is the setting of the location? Is it where people come for their honeymoon, or where people visit for sightseeing? If you are planning a vacation to spend romantic time with your partner, ensure that you pick the right location that will set things up. Remember this is not a family vacation where you have to consider the needs of your children. It’s something involving just both of you. Choose a location that will set you in the mood for sex, somewhere not too cold or hot, but cool weather that will make you guys want to cling on to each other for the rest of the trip. Ensure they don’t allow children there too.

Make a bucket list
What do you hope to achieve with your partner during this trip? Do you want to explore her body on a deeper level? Get to know her g-spot or erogenous zones? Try out crazy sex positions? 50 shades of gray motivated? Sex on the beach? Want sex full of toys? You can write out different things you wish to try out and get her to write hers too. Writing a bucket list and sharing with each other will build the momentum and excitement that will make you do a countdown to the big day.

What’s in the luggage?
Surely not some old undies and worn out shorts. It’s been a while you’ve had enough time to yourself, so why bring up the past. Please keep out the oldies and go shopping for some new sexy Victoria secret and puma briefs. Your babe can also add some wigs for different character roles depending on the level of sexual communication you both have. Sex toys, lubricants, contraceptives, massage oils, chocolate thongs, undies, etc. should be in that bag unless you plan on getting them when you arrive at your destination.

Build momentum
So you’ve finally gotten to your destination. Your room looks inviting, red rose petals at strategic places. Do you think it’s right to jump into sex right away? While there is nothing wrong with this, you can be sure your first vacation sex will be boring. Do something that will increase sex drive for each other, a warm bath, exercise, massage, skydiving, etc. You do not need to rush things; you are on vacation.

Monday, July 16, 2018

How To Make Her Your 'Love Slave'

The thought of having a submissive lover is probably at the top of every man's wish list. That's certainly the case for every single one of my friends and me.

And the interesting - and awesome - thing is that the grand majority of women want to submit. Most of them will never actually say it out loud, but they are ready and willing to submit to the man who can comfortably and competently take the lead.

But even when I had a good amount of sex experience under my belt, I still didn't know how to take the lead and dominate my sex partner.

The thought of holding her hair and pulling it back, or to tie her up and blindfold her was an extreme turn on for me. But I was simply afraid that she would not only stop me but that she would probably slap me across the face and never want to see me again.

Little did I know that literally 99% of women love having their hair pulled during sex... as long as you don't try to yank her hair out of her skull. The same thing goes for tying her up and blindfolding her.

No matter how reserved she may seem at first, there is an inner freak that is just begging to be unleashed as long as you are ready and able to handle it.
So, let's talk about that a bit...

If you want your woman to submit to you and become your personal "love slave," you have to do two things.

It may sound overly simple, but you can't let the simplicity of it fool you. You have to understand that these two steps are very powerful and can work with any woman as long as you're ready for it.

Step 1: Have a genuine sexual desire to satisfy her, and then do it.
I've said this before, I'll say it again, and probably again in the future: If you take the time and effort to make sure that she has an orgasm before you, she would be willing to do whatever you want her to.
Do you want to tie her up? Do you want to pull her hair? Spank her? Choke her?
The chances are that you can do all of those things as long as you ensure that she has her orgasm first. (And I'm talking about a real, hair-raising, toe-curling, and intense orgasm)
There is nothing more powerful than a sexually satisfied woman.

Step 2: "Tread Softly" and check for feedback
If you've never slept with your partner before, you probably don't want to bring out the whips and the chains just yet. If she's letting you spank her, it probably doesn't mean that she wants you to stick your finger in her butt.

Whatever you want to try, you have to "test" the idea first by doing a very light version of the idea, and then check for her reaction to see if you should continue or not.

For example, if you want to stick a vibrator in her butt ultimately, you have first to rub your finger across her anus while you're having sex to see how she reacts to it. If she squirms and says, "No!" then you know that you probably shouldn't continue.

But if she doesn't shut you down right away, then you can continue to stroke it. Then slowly and gently begin to slide your finger in only up to the first knuckle. Then you stop here and continue your vaginal stroke.

If she is enjoying it, you'll either hear her moan, or you'll feel lubrication coming from her anus. This can be a sign that you can push your finger deeper. But if you want to be even more careful, you can just ask her how she likes it.

This can apply to anything pulling her hair, tying her up, using toys, etc.
Just remember consensual sex is good sex.

Monday, July 2, 2018

Improve Your Sex Life With Exercise

Physical exercise, aside from being a great way to keep the body in its proper shape, it also helps to enhance neurologic function, improve cardiovascular activities, relieve stress, manage BMI, increase concentration and awareness, as well as having a tremendous impact on our sexual health.

Order than cutting the risk of health complications associated with obesity and being overweight, regular exercise makes you feel and look sexy, giving you confidence, and boosting your self-esteem by giving you a right overall image of yourself

Researchers have shown that physical exercise has similar and diverse health benefits on both male and female’s sexual life. Physical activities in both men and women tend to induce improved sexual desirability and sexual performance. Improvement in this sexual desirability and performance may, however, vary between the two sexes. With regular exercise, women’s bodies are essentially primed for sexual activities through increased sensitivity to touch, while men, who exercise regularly, experience better sexual performance and have a better orgasm.

A study in 2008 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine proved that short duration, high-intensity physical exercise, less than 30 minutes and with a targeted heart rate of 70 percent of maximum heart rate, in women, does substantially improve sexual arousal. Another 2007 study in the same journal, discovered a strong connection between enhanced perception of arousal and increased body awareness. We can make a conclusion from these two studies that physical exercise increases body's responsiveness in women through improves bodily sensations such as increased muscle tension and heightened heart rate.

In men, however, regular physical exercise has been shown to improve sex drive significantly. A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour in 1990 showed that men who participate in physical activity, one hour a day, 3 – 5 times a week, with targeted heart rate of 75 – 80 percent of maximum heart rate, have a significant improvement in sexual involvements, such as endurance level, adequate sexual functionality, frequency of Sexual activities and an overall improved sexual drive.

If the fact that you’ll have better health is not enough reason to do some exercise, perhaps you might consider the following benefits of regular exercise in your Sexual life.

·       Exercise makes you look sexier – People who exercise regularly will have an improved body image, and this improves sexual desirability.

·       Exercises can cut the risk of erectile dysfunction – Since males genital erection is associated with blood circulation, regular exercise can help reduce the risk of diseases affiliated with the circulatory system, including high blood pressure and blocked arteries.

·       Exercises aids the release of endorphins – The term “runner’s high” is used to describe the feeling of pleasure and contempt during exercise, this feeling is usually triggered by the release of endorphins. People who exercise regularly often have a better sex life because the more the endorphins are released, the more the sexual arousal.

·       Exercise improve sexual performance in older individuals – Older people who exercise regularly tend to experience more or less the same sexual pleasure as with much younger people. Exercise can help optimize sexual performance in ageing people and cut the risk of sexual ageing.