Sex & you

Sex & you

Monday, July 16, 2018

How To Make Her Your 'Love Slave'


The thought of having a submissive lover is probably at the top of every man's wish list. That's certainly the case for every single one of my friends and me.

And the interesting - and awesome - thing is that the grand majority of women want to submit. Most of them will never actually say it out loud, but they are ready and willing to submit to the man who can comfortably and competently take the lead.

But even when I had a good amount of sex experience under my belt, I still didn't know how to take the lead and dominate my sex partner.

The thought of holding her hair and pulling it back, or to tie her up and blindfold her was an extreme turn on for me. But I was simply afraid that she would not only stop me but that she would probably slap me across the face and never want to see me again.

Little did I know that literally 99% of women love having their hair pulled during sex... as long as you don't try to yank her hair out of her skull. The same thing goes for tying her up and blindfolding her.

No matter how reserved she may seem at first, there is an inner freak that is just begging to be unleashed as long as you are ready and able to handle it.
So, let's talk about that a bit...

If you want your woman to submit to you and become your personal "love slave," you have to do two things.

It may sound overly simple, but you can't let the simplicity of it fool you. You have to understand that these two steps are very powerful and can work with any woman as long as you're ready for it.

Step 1: Have a genuine sexual desire to satisfy her, and then do it.
I've said this before, I'll say it again, and probably again in the future: If you take the time and effort to make sure that she has an orgasm before you, she would be willing to do whatever you want her to.
Do you want to tie her up? Do you want to pull her hair? Spank her? Choke her?
The chances are that you can do all of those things as long as you ensure that she has her orgasm first. (And I'm talking about a real, hair-raising, toe-curling, and intense orgasm)
There is nothing more powerful than a sexually satisfied woman.

Step 2: "Tread Softly" and check for feedback
If you've never slept with your partner before, you probably don't want to bring out the whips and the chains just yet. If she's letting you spank her, it probably doesn't mean that she wants you to stick your finger in her butt.

Whatever you want to try, you have to "test" the idea first by doing a very light version of the idea, and then check for her reaction to see if you should continue or not.

For example, if you want to stick a vibrator in her butt ultimately, you have first to rub your finger across her anus while you're having sex to see how she reacts to it. If she squirms and says, "No!" then you know that you probably shouldn't continue.

But if she doesn't shut you down right away, then you can continue to stroke it. Then slowly and gently begin to slide your finger in only up to the first knuckle. Then you stop here and continue your vaginal stroke.

If she is enjoying it, you'll either hear her moan, or you'll feel lubrication coming from her anus. This can be a sign that you can push your finger deeper. But if you want to be even more careful, you can just ask her how she likes it.

This can apply to anything pulling her hair, tying her up, using toys, etc.
Just remember consensual sex is good sex.

Monday, July 2, 2018

Improve Your Sex Life With Exercise


Physical exercise, aside from being a great way to keep the body in its proper shape, it also helps to enhance neurologic function, improve cardiovascular activities, relieve stress, manage BMI, increase concentration and awareness, as well as having a tremendous impact on our sexual health.

Order than cutting the risk of health complications associated with obesity and being overweight, regular exercise makes you feel and look sexy, giving you confidence, and boosting your self-esteem by giving you a right overall image of yourself

Researchers have shown that physical exercise has similar and diverse health benefits on both male and female’s sexual life. Physical activities in both men and women tend to induce improved sexual desirability and sexual performance. Improvement in this sexual desirability and performance may, however, vary between the two sexes. With regular exercise, women’s bodies are essentially primed for sexual activities through increased sensitivity to touch, while men, who exercise regularly, experience better sexual performance and have a better orgasm.

A study in 2008 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine proved that short duration, high-intensity physical exercise, less than 30 minutes and with a targeted heart rate of 70 percent of maximum heart rate, in women, does substantially improve sexual arousal. Another 2007 study in the same journal, discovered a strong connection between enhanced perception of arousal and increased body awareness. We can make a conclusion from these two studies that physical exercise increases body's responsiveness in women through improves bodily sensations such as increased muscle tension and heightened heart rate.

In men, however, regular physical exercise has been shown to improve sex drive significantly. A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour in 1990 showed that men who participate in physical activity, one hour a day, 3 – 5 times a week, with targeted heart rate of 75 – 80 percent of maximum heart rate, have a significant improvement in sexual involvements, such as endurance level, adequate sexual functionality, frequency of Sexual activities and an overall improved sexual drive.

If the fact that you’ll have better health is not enough reason to do some exercise, perhaps you might consider the following benefits of regular exercise in your Sexual life.

·       Exercise makes you look sexier – People who exercise regularly will have an improved body image, and this improves sexual desirability.

·       Exercises can cut the risk of erectile dysfunction – Since males genital erection is associated with blood circulation, regular exercise can help reduce the risk of diseases affiliated with the circulatory system, including high blood pressure and blocked arteries.

·       Exercises aids the release of endorphins – The term “runner’s high” is used to describe the feeling of pleasure and contempt during exercise, this feeling is usually triggered by the release of endorphins. People who exercise regularly often have a better sex life because the more the endorphins are released, the more the sexual arousal.

·       Exercise improve sexual performance in older individuals – Older people who exercise regularly tend to experience more or less the same sexual pleasure as with much younger people. Exercise can help optimize sexual performance in ageing people and cut the risk of sexual ageing.

Thursday, June 21, 2018

How to turn a guy on


Many ladies fail at the dating game. This might be due to several reasons. Some are too shy to accost a guy at a club, for example, others are too proud and give off an air of superiority, which instantly turns of most guys. Improve your sexual life may lead to better sexual health for both of you and your sex partner. There are women who hold themselves way more intelligent than a man, and as such, come off as all-knowing and geeky, which also most guys don`t like.

Guys, like ladies, are complicated beings and have their need and sexual desires, just like ladies do. Although it might appear easy to hook up with a dude at the local bar, who drank all night and does not know his name anymore, turning on a sober and normal man, is quite complicated. Here are some fundamental tips and skills that every woman should understand if they simply want to turn on their man.

1) Put on An Erotic Apparel
The first thing men see's about a woman is the way she dresses. Nowadays, the more skin a woman shows, the better. Mini skirts and sexy stockings with high heels will make any man swoon over you. Also, skin-tight dresses with just enough cleavage to show off your assets is also the way to go. A woman should, without uncertainty, accentuate her natural curves, mostly around her hips and back, because that part is what most men will check out first when seeing a lady.

2) Walk Sexy
This aspect is pretty easy for most women, but there are some who have to learn it from scratch. Walking like a man will not turn on any guy who sees you. When she wears high heels, the natural swaying of the hips when she walks should come by heart, but every woman should master how to walk sexy, even if she is wearing Converse footwear. There exist few things as charming, as seeing a sexy lady walking the right, sexy way, just winking at her assets, with every step she makes. It is just mesmerizing, and will inevitably turn all guys on.

3) Smell Good
Smell is a very significant part in turning on both sexes. A sweaty, stinking mechanic or construction worker, will probably be as prosperous in hooking up with a woman, as a swine would be. And that is true for ladies as well. Always smell pleasant when dating, or even when meeting your husband or boyfriend. A woman smelling of sweet, flowery fragrance is incredibly sexy for a man. Most of the question of how to turn a man on can be answered by simply smelling good. Always use fragrance when going on a date, or even at home. Love goes through the nostrils as well.

4) Be Soft
Every woman should be as soft as silk. Use lotions, shower gels which naturally make your skin soft and humid. And most importantly, always shave. Nothing is as offensive for a man, then a hairy woman. That was sexy 2,000 years ago, but not in the 21st century. On the other hand, there is nothing as sexy for a man, as silky soft, creamy skin, wherever he might touch you.

5) The Way You Present Yourself
Every woman should show off her femininity to a man. But also, not be needy and extremely possessive. The perfect combination is between a damsel in distress and a woman that can hold her ground, without becoming domineering. Men want to protect their women, and it is an old instinct that all man has. If you let him protect you, it will turn him on, because he will feel like a star. But also, if you make him understand that you are not just a pushover, that is very hot for a guy as well. It is all about balancing these two personalities.

6) Playing The Game 
This last part is essential. Always play the game with a guy. Tease him, feel him just at the right spots, and then back off. Leave him with something to look forward to for the night. Make funny jokes about him, and admit his games as well, without taking them personally. Cuddle and kiss him ever so slightly, but never give him all. Men were hunters in ancient times, and that remains true to this day. They need a challenge and something to hunt, so be the prey. It is a definite turn on for most men, to have to go out of their way to get a woman. These stimulation will boost sexual desire and may be more powerful than any sex pill you can find.