Sex & you

Sex & you
Showing posts with label sexual desire. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sexual desire. Show all posts

Monday, July 16, 2018

How To Make Her Your 'Love Slave'


The thought of having a submissive lover is probably at the top of every man's wish list. That's certainly the case for every single one of my friends and me.

And the interesting - and awesome - thing is that the grand majority of women want to submit. Most of them will never actually say it out loud, but they are ready and willing to submit to the man who can comfortably and competently take the lead.

But even when I had a good amount of sex experience under my belt, I still didn't know how to take the lead and dominate my sex partner.

The thought of holding her hair and pulling it back, or to tie her up and blindfold her was an extreme turn on for me. But I was simply afraid that she would not only stop me but that she would probably slap me across the face and never want to see me again.

Little did I know that literally 99% of women love having their hair pulled during sex... as long as you don't try to yank her hair out of her skull. The same thing goes for tying her up and blindfolding her.

No matter how reserved she may seem at first, there is an inner freak that is just begging to be unleashed as long as you are ready and able to handle it.
So, let's talk about that a bit...

If you want your woman to submit to you and become your personal "love slave," you have to do two things.

It may sound overly simple, but you can't let the simplicity of it fool you. You have to understand that these two steps are very powerful and can work with any woman as long as you're ready for it.

Step 1: Have a genuine sexual desire to satisfy her, and then do it.
I've said this before, I'll say it again, and probably again in the future: If you take the time and effort to make sure that she has an orgasm before you, she would be willing to do whatever you want her to.
Do you want to tie her up? Do you want to pull her hair? Spank her? Choke her?
The chances are that you can do all of those things as long as you ensure that she has her orgasm first. (And I'm talking about a real, hair-raising, toe-curling, and intense orgasm)
There is nothing more powerful than a sexually satisfied woman.

Step 2: "Tread Softly" and check for feedback
If you've never slept with your partner before, you probably don't want to bring out the whips and the chains just yet. If she's letting you spank her, it probably doesn't mean that she wants you to stick your finger in her butt.

Whatever you want to try, you have to "test" the idea first by doing a very light version of the idea, and then check for her reaction to see if you should continue or not.

For example, if you want to stick a vibrator in her butt ultimately, you have first to rub your finger across her anus while you're having sex to see how she reacts to it. If she squirms and says, "No!" then you know that you probably shouldn't continue.

But if she doesn't shut you down right away, then you can continue to stroke it. Then slowly and gently begin to slide your finger in only up to the first knuckle. Then you stop here and continue your vaginal stroke.

If she is enjoying it, you'll either hear her moan, or you'll feel lubrication coming from her anus. This can be a sign that you can push your finger deeper. But if you want to be even more careful, you can just ask her how she likes it.

This can apply to anything pulling her hair, tying her up, using toys, etc.
Just remember consensual sex is good sex.

Friday, June 1, 2018

How to Be a Sexual King in Bed


If you truly want your girl to shout out your name in the midst of multiple orgasms, then you need moves that will please your girl and enable you to have fun too.

There are some moves that will truly enable you to turn into a sexual king in bed even as your girl turns into a shrieking queen begging for a sexual encore.

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You should realize that you need to be in control when you are having sex with your girl. This does not mean that you slap your girl around, although some fantasies do involve a bit of slapping, in turn, means that you act with passion and confidence. Do not be a wimp in bed but understand that girls like confident guys that know what moves to make to make a girl co crazy with desire.

Instead of simply focusing on your sexual pleasure, you should first concentrate on getting your girl all heated up with sexual desire. Start out by whispering naughty things in her ear. This will make her shiver in anticipation as you describe each sexual act that you plan to confer upon her.

Passionate foreplay techniques will surely be applauded by your girl in the form of moans and grunts of pleasure. Remember that you have many tools other than your penis to please your girl. You can kiss your girl on her lips, abdomen, breasts and thighs and also use your lips and tongue to stimulating her clitoris seductively. This move, when combined with a few fingers, is sure to result in at least a couple of intense orgasm from your girl.

While your girl would by now be ready to accept you as her king, you will still need to lay claim to the throne by penetrating her. Make sure that she is ready for you and also use sex positions that enable you to stimulate her g-spot by adjusting the angle of your penis. If your foreplay techniques have done their job well, then the penetration will take her to the seventh heaven of pleasure, and you will both achieve a royal orgasm together.

If you both have reached your orgasm and planned to continue lovemaking, stay in bed. To revive your energy levels, hug, cuddle, kiss and talk. Remember, lovemaking is not just a physical act, and it requires a level of emotional bonding too. Once you’ve reached climax don’t just turn your back on her or flip onto your back; look deep into her eyes and reassure her about how attracted you are to her and how much you cherish your time with her. Do this and you won't need to work too hard to stimulate her for a continued session of lovemaking.

Wednesday, December 6, 2017

Men and Women Sexual Fantasies

Fantasy is a normal and healthy part of sex life for both men and women. According to some scientists, a rich fantasy life brings better sex.

One of the seductiveness of fantasy lovers, even if your fantasy lover is your own partner, as it often happens-is that they are right next to you, and they perfectly know what to do in order to make you feel good. One more benefit is that you may enjoy fantasy sex with someone other than your partner without consequences, as it occurs solely in your mind. Fantasy helps you to do those wild and lascivious things that you have always dreamed of.

Now let's see what women and men are thinking about.

Women fantasies
1.Fantasizing about her current partner
This is the number one sexual fantasy for the majority of women. Women fantasy about things they have done or would like to do with their partners.

2.Sex with a man who is not her partner
For women, this is usually a past lover. Some women feel guilty reliving some hot moments from the past. But it is something normal.

3.Sex with another woman
Women are more likely to have sex fantasies with another woman than men, probably because it is more acceptable. It is not necessary that she knows another woman; the most important thing is that woman knows exactly what to do in order to turn her on.

4.Something she has never tried before
These fantasies may include group sex, blindfolding, threesomes, watching others or other things. While many women are rather imaginative that concerns their fantasies, they often don't accept a sexual desire for anything kinky to a partner for fear of being judged.

5.Receiving oral sex
Oral sex is the most effective and quickest way to reach intense orgasm, that is why it is not surprising that the majority of women fantasies are related to oral sex.

Men fantasies
1.Having sex with a woman other than his partner
Often she is a past lover, a friend or even a celebrity. A lot of people desire to have sex with someone new and fantasy is a great way of enjoying this longing without being unfaithful to your partner.

2.Giving or receiving oral sex
This fantasy occupies almost the top of the list for both sexes. Giving and receiving oral sex turns on every man. Many women are aroused more by oral sex than intercourse and being in the role of the pleasure-giver and driving his woman crazy is extremely excited.

3.Sex with two or more women
Having sex with one woman is for sure good, but having sex with two or more doubles the sensations. Men fantasy how they arouse both women, giving them multiple orgasms. However according to studies many men don't want and actually couldn't cope with such sexual demands in real life.

4.Anal sex
The anus is a very erotic zone, especially for men. A lot of men would like to have anal intercourse with their women; unfortunately the majority of fair sex avoid anal sex, that is why men fantasize about it.

5.Voyeurism
Few people would not avoid watching a couple having sex if they were assured not to be caught. The reason that voyeurism is so popular fantasy among men is that sex is private and hidden. Men can see couples do it on video, but seeing it in real is another thing.


Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Fixing Sex Drives Issues For Youngster

For most people, youth is the best period of life. It’s a time of energy, power, vigor, and an incredible desire to live. And it’s also the time when our bodies are at their peak in the sense of their overall health and youthfulness. But if there’s one thing that goes hand in hand with youth – it’s the incredibly powerful sex drive that young people have, not to mention that it will affect your sexual desire as well.

But even young people are known to have sex drive issues at one time or another. And this, combined with the idealization of youth as a period where everything about our bodies needs to function perfectly – can have a devastating effect on the self-confidence of young people. So, if you’re young person and you’re facing issues with low sex drive, how can you go about fixing them?

Exercise plays a vital role
That’s right, chances are that you already knew this sound advice, but the fact that most everyone knows about the importance of exercise doesn’t make this advice any less potent. The best forms of exercise when it comes to sexual health are the cardiovascular training, and strength training. Both can be incredibly simple to do – you don’t need to over complicate things. A light 20-minute jog for a few times per week and a few strength training sessions a week in the gym where you will lift weights will be more than enough for the restoration of your sex drive.

Don’t forget about nutrition
Next in line is the nutrition, or what you eat. This too can have a profound effect on your sex drives as a young person. What you want to do is to ditch the processed foods that are laden with harmful chemicals that can wreak havoc on your body. On the other hand, you’ll want to increase your intake of nutritious, nourishing foods such as fruits and vegetables. The rule of thumb is that you should eat unprocessed foods that exist in nature and that you shouldn’t overeat. Also, make sure that you have an intake of various types of vegetables so that you will get all of the micronutrients that your body craves. In this way, you will increase the power of your sex drives dramatically.

Sleep more
For all its good things, youth is a period when we are at a loss of time to do all the things that we want. The 24-hour day is simply too short for all the things we want to do, and so we cut back on some important things, such as sleep, in order to artificially create more time. This is a mistake –, especially for our sex drives. You’ll want to sleep for at least 7-8 hours a day, every day if you’re to keep healthy and increase the power of your sex drives.

In conclusion
There are many factors that you need to consider if you’re a young person and you have issues with a low sex drive. The thing to be aware of here is that this is not something to be ashamed of, as even the most virile of people experience a downswing in their sex drive from time to time. Implement the advice from above, and you will most likely see an improvement in this critical area of your life.

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

All You Should Know About Testicular Cancer And How To Detect It

Regular control and prevention is the best way of staying healthy. Although cancer is one of the most common illnesses today, most of the cancer types can be efficiently treated if noticed in time. That is why you should not avoid seeing your doctor every now and then. Guys particularly should be careful when it comes to their intimate parts.

Testicular cancer is not that often and can be treated easily but only if you start the process as soon as possible. Most of the patients who have treated testicular cancer on time have healed completely and without any aftereffects. But there are also many examples of fatal consequences that are mostly caused by undue treatment.

Testicles and Cancer                                                                 
Testicles are crucial for men's reproductive and general health. They are an integral part of your reproductive system and the source of sperm and various male hormones such as testosterone. Without them, you will be unable of having any sexual desire or any prospect of having children. These should be enough reasons to pay particular attention to your "boy's" sexual health.

Although testicular cancer is rare when compared to other types of this disease, it still deserves precaution. No matter what age you might be there are still chances of suffering from testicular cancer. Men aged between 20 and 34 are the most common patients and most of them are efficiently healed if the cancer was discovered in an early phase. In many cases, the treatment was efficient even if cancer has already spread. But have in mind that this lowers your chance of defeating the illness completely unharmed.

Testicular cancer has similar effects as all other, which means that it leads to the creation of abnormal cells that are harmful to your body. If this process continues your testicles will grow an abnormal size and cancer can even spread to other parts of the body. There are still no certain causes of testicular cancer but an unhealthy way of life, stress, some other illnesses (Klinefelter syndrome for example) and a presence of cancer in your family are some of the common conditions. Perhaps it is more important to be aware of symptoms of testicular cancer that should be the signal for visiting a doctor right away.

Symptoms Of A Testicular Cancer And Possible Treatments
Your body may give you various signals to warn you something is wrong with your testicles, but if you are not listening to it, you may well end up with a dangerous disease such as cancer. However, it is important also to know what are the symptoms of testicular cancer and once you notice them, you are then able to act fast and against the disease.

One of the most frequent symptoms is a lump in your testicles. If you notice it on your testicles, you will instantly see that a lump is painless, it can be small but over the time, it may become bigger and bigger, as well as to spread to other organs in your body.

Another significant symptom may be swelling in the testicles or scrotum. Very often, pain can be present as well, with or without the swelling. At the matter of fact, swelling of the testicles is natural in some cases, but if it becomes too frequent, then it is high time for you to see your doctor.

Change in the shape and size of one of your testicles may also be a sign of testicular cancer. Often, one testicle can be more firm than the other or sometimes bigger than usual. If you detect this kind of a change, don't leave it just like that. Schedule an appointment with your doctor's and dispel all the doubts.

You may also see your breasts have grown a little bit. This is not so frequent symptom but it has been noticed in several kinds of testicular cancer. And in addition, some patients suffering from testicular cancer have also felt dull pain and discomfort.

What Should You Do In Case You Notice Some Of The Symptoms?
The good thing to do inevitably once a month is to have a self-examination. Make a bubble bath with a warm water and apply a gentle massage to your testicles with both your hands. This way you can examine your testicles and perhaps detect a lump that indicates an early stage of the testicular tumor. In case this happens, make sure you urgently visit your doctor. Once a doctor becomes able to give you a diagnosis, you are then ready to talk about any further steps that are to be taken.

Saturday, May 6, 2017

How to Make a Woman Orgasm Fast

There are two different main types of a female orgasm. One is achieved via direct sexual stimulation of her clitoris while the other is by stimulating the G-spot which is embedded inside her vagina. However, an even greater orgasm can be achieved with these.

Stimulate Her G-Spot with Your Penis
First of all, you need to set the pace, when you are inside of her. Do not just thrust her rapidly in any direction. It can be a painful experience for her. Instead, Start of slowly when you just begin entering her. Elevate her bottom with a pillow so that when you thrust, your penis can stimulate her G-spot. Your thrusting should not be too forceful but gentle as you rock back and forth, using your knees as support.

Stamina
It is all about how long you can have sex. Having the stamina to last a while will allow the girl to orgasm extremely fast. If you can have intercourse fast and hard, you will get your girl to climax quickly if you don't stop. That is what men always do because they cannot handle the pleasure. If you control your mind, then you will be able to last and be able to have sex fast and hard with no problem. You will be amazed that after a few seconds, the girl will have had one or more orgasms. It is all about stamina.

Position
Another area that you need to focus on is the position. The way your body is positioned and the way you can penetrate her will play a significant role in the whole process. It is essential to have the right position to give her sexual pleasure. Otherwise, you will not be able to give her a quick orgasm.
To get a girl to climax fast, you need to be able to have the right methods to get success. With the right position, stamina, and tools, you will be able to give a girl an orgasm fast and without any issues.

Rub Your Pubic Area on Her Clitoris
Gradually increase the intensity and the depth of penetration. Most women prefer escalation one step at a time. As most of her nerve endings are located on the clitoris, keep your pubic area close, rubbing against hers. As you rock in motion, her clitoris can also be stimulated at the same time to increase her sexual desire. Sexual satisfaction is achieved when both partners' needs are simultaneously fulfilled during sex, it gives you a harder erection as well.

Fondle Her Breasts
You can also heighten her orgasm by stimulating other parts of her erogenous zones. If she is on top of you, you can massage her breasts with your hands as you allow her to take control of your penetration. Women find this as a huge turn on.

Massage Her Bottom
Vary your caress with massaging her bottom with one hand while the other is on her breast. The more stimulation she has on her erogenous areas, the more likely she is to reach orgasm quickly.

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Deep Penetration Positions - Explosive Orgasm for Both of You

The best sex positions enable both you and your partner to achieve simultaneous orgasms. However, a lot of people don't seem to get it right. According to a recent survey by ABC News, only 30% of American women reported they "always" manage to orgasm in sex. Now ask yourself: is your woman in the same shoe as them?

Fortunately, you do not have to master the skill of a porn actor to satisfy your woman. There are easy positions that allow deep penetration and erotic stimulate high sex drives for both of you. Read out as we reveal the low down of the best deep penetration positions:
Important: Do not underestimate foreplay!

Foreplay for men is everything that happens about 3 minutes before sex.-Dr. Louann Brizendine
If you view foreplay this way, then you are into alot lot of troubles. According to experts, it takes minimum 15 minutes of arousal time before a woman can reach orgasm. Foreplay is a fundamental step to prepare her for lovemaking. It helps to release fluids from the private areas to enhance sexual pleasure and intense orgasm. If you rush sex, she will have difficulties to achieve the big "O". Besides, she may feel uncomfortable with your penetration due to lack of moisture. There's nothing worse than a painful intercourse!

In a nutshell, please do not be stingy with foreplay. There are many ways to make her reach near orgasm during foreplay, including hugging, oral sex, kissing, and sensual massage. The primary focus should be her pleasure.

Deep Penetration Positions
1. Lotus Position
In this posture, you sit on the bed with extended or crossed legs. She sits on your lap and places her hands on your shoulder. Then, she wraps her legs around your waist with moving up and down along your penis shaft.

Tip: As she is doing her job, try to squeeze your PC muscle as though you are doing Kegel exercise. It will exponentially intensify your orgasm!

2. Full Mast Position
It is the standard missionary position with a little twist. As she lies on her back, put her legs on your chest, then raise legs up to form a "L" shape in relation to her body. You knee down in front of her and penetrate from front. This position allows deep thrusting and provides high level of sensation as it makes you feel tight.

Tip: Instead of lying on the bed, have her to lie on a table where her buttock is positioned at the edge. It will allow you to penetrate deeper and leave your hands free to fondle her body, it will boost her sexual desire.

3. Cowgirl position
Cowgirl position is an incredible deep penetration position. It allows deep thrusting and erotic stimulation. In a typical cowgirl position, you lie on your back while she sits on top of you to do all the work. She is in charge of the angle and speed of stimulation which equals maximum sensation for both of you. If your woman is conscious of body image, suggest reverse cowgirl position which she faces against you.

Tip: The up-and-down movement can be pretty tiring for her. You can have her to slightly bend forward and move back and forth. It requires less effort from her and also increases chances of clitoral orgasm.

Now listen, when these tips are combined, it will send her to absolute heaven!

Tuesday, November 8, 2016

A Few Tips to Solve a Sexless Relationship

Many married couples or couples that are part of a long-term relationship are experiencing serious problems or even divorces and separation as a result of insufficient or complete lack of sex, sexual desire or passion. When partners don’t share these intimate moments together their relationship is going in a different direction making everything difficult. Sexless relationships are not as rare as most people think. Of course, we can’t find the right number because people usually avoid talking about this, but their number is certainly high. In case both partners, or at least one of the partners, doesn’t take some action in a timely manner, the relationship will simply break up or one of them will start cheating. If you are in a situation like this, it is time to use some of the tips we will share in this article.

The first step is to determine the cause of this serious issue. The fact is that there are many different things that can affect our sex lives. For example, some men or women are afraid of pregnancy, others don’t have sufficient sex drive while some develop antipathy against their wife or husband. In any case, what really matters is to find the exact cause. If you are not able to do this on your own, you can talk to an experienced therapist. They are true professionals who will help you, but only if you are completely open.

The next advice is to talk to your partner. Don’t avoid this issue and don’t be shy. A sexless relationship is a problem and it should be discussed. It might be a little bit odd in the beginning, but it will eventually help. It is important not to blame anyone for the situation. The main point is to find a way to solve this issue and continue with your relationship as it once was.

Most experts agree that spending more quality time with your partner can fix your relationship. By spending more time with your partner you will increase trust and love. So, don’t forget the romantic dinners, long morning or afternoon walks, cuddling, hugging, sharing an activity, going outside together and other things that can make your relationship more interesting and exciting.

If you want to maintain a high level of passion in a long relationship or marriage, you should also continue flirting all the time. Don’t hesitate to send a provocative text message, be intimate when you can and take care of yourself- wear beautiful clothes, shave, take care of your hair etc. This is a good way to spark romance.

In addition, visit a doctor and check your overall health. See whether some health issue is making you lose interest in sex. If you are taking pills, try to switch to other pills in case they are affecting your sex drive.

Finally, don’t forget that the pharmaceutical industry has created a wide range of female and male enhancement pills. Read the descriptions and reviews and find some suitable for you and your partner.

Thursday, February 19, 2015

How the Traction Device Works to Stretch Penis Size

Traction devices or so called penis extenders are basically the most common technique of penis enlargement. Enlarging the penis’ size naturally occurs in this case in reaction to the capacity of fabrics; to increase cell proliferation and elasticity when subjected to a continuous traction force.

The principle of traction has been widely used while performing plastic surgery for the expansion of tissues. The tissue regeneration is used to cover skin defects, burning and areas of hair loss. Moreover, the same principle is used in orthopedic surgery in order to stretch the diaphysis of long bones.

The answer to "how do I enlarge the penis?" is based more or less on the principle of traction in the same way that this principle is used in ancient cultures to other parts of the body as the "Giraffe Neck" - Women of Paduang tribe in Burma, or the lips and ears of other African tribes and even Amazon. External prostheses or weights for elongation are another clear example that supports the idea of increasing the penis naturally through traction devices.

What are the benefits of this method to increase penis size naturally?
·        Increasein penis size (length)
·        Increased thickness of the penis
·        Corrections to deviations or penile curvature
·        Improving your self-esteem and confidence
·        Premature Ejaculation Control
·        Improved strength and harder erection
·        Increased histamine and sexual desire

What can we say about the methods that teach how to increase the length and girth of the penis manually? In addition to being the method that boasts to have large volumes of positive testimonials, the great advantage is that this penis enlargement technique is noninvasive, does not put the physical and health at risk for its user. Methods that teach how to exercise to increase penis allow you to control the process and does not require medical supervision, provided that the procedures are followed without exaggeration as without this process it becomes a painful activity that could cause irreversible damage.

About enlarge the penis with medication use and other stretching exercise
The medicinal products to increase penis size involve risks. Obviously, when we talk about drugs, we also speak in medical care. It does not suffice the need for monitoring by a medical professional as most of these products are vasodilators, also will only work if accompanied by use of traction devices or mandatory exercises.

Increase Penile with Jelqing
The Jelq word refers to the ancient method of penis enlargement based on exercises and warm towels. Nowadays, stretching exercises done manually were replaced by stretching devices called extenders, while the technique remains the same. The most popular methods that teach to enlarge the penis with exercises based on this ancient technique of Jelqing. An extender device is placed around the flaccid penis and worn under clothing during the day time most extreme cases. Working things this way provide enough exercises to the penis using the extender as support to facilitate. This system has proven to be effective and has been known to provide awesome results if used for a long period of time.


Saturday, February 14, 2015

Sexual fantasies – do you make your fantasies come true?

There is no doubt that every man and woman has sexual fantasies, but what to you dream about when you have these fantasies? Have you ever tried to make some of these fantasies come true? Do you talk about your fantasies with your partner or anyone else? Every adult had a sexual fantasy at least once in their lifetime and many people have these fantasies almost on a daily basis and there is nothing wrong with that because sexual fantasies are part of human sexuality.

Many sexologists describe sexual fantasies as sexual experience people have in their own imagination. This may be some memory of a certain sexual experience the person had or something that they have never experienced before but would love to see how it feels. Also, some sexual fantasies can arouse you while you think about them, but you know that if you feel them in reality you probably won’t enjoy in them. Some sexual fantasies are really simple, but there are sexual fantasies that can be very thoughtful and complex with a well-developed story, action and characters.
What is extremely important to remember is that sexual fantasies aren’t reality which means that it is perfectly safe to fantasize because it won’t have any effect and you will enjoy in it. Whatever you do in your sexual fantasy no one will blame you for infidelity or immorality. All those slightly perverted things are happening inside your head.

Even as children people learn to distinguish fantasy from reality and it is impossible for a sane person to confuse these two things. Therefore, people know that sexual fantasies are only fantasy. What is even more interesting is that most people wouldn’t like to experience those things in real life because of many reasons and these things won’t probably excite them in real life. For example, there are many people who sometimes have homoerotic fantasies, but this doesn’t mean that they are homosexuals.

However, sexual fantasies are still a very important part of sexual life because they provide additional stimulation and pleasure during masturbation or sexual intercourse with the partner. Sexual fantasies are a very important aspect of sexual excitement and sexual desire. These fantasies can create high sex drive and arousal and for some person only sexual fantasizing can lead them to intense orgasm.  

Certain beautiful fantasies can become reality, whether they occurred by chance or you and your partner have decided to join your forces and achieve them. Of course, the realization of fantasy can be very exciting for many people, especially when they can share and achieve them with their partner. However, it is good to mention that what you have in your mind can be fun and exciting but this doesn’t have to be right when we look at real life situations. If you don’t want to talk about your fantasies you don’t have to. But, if you want to share them (especially with your partner) you need to take few things into consideration especially if your fantasies involve more adults, certain types of injuries and rough play and if they include persons that you and your partner know. 

Saturday, January 17, 2015

The secrets of male satisfaction

Let’s be honest – modern men are a little bit insecure and confused especially when it comes to bedroom activities. Sexual life of men has many enemies and some of them include – lack of libidosexual desire, erectile dysfunctions, fear that they will not meet the expectations from their partner etc. The causes are different for each man, but one is more apparent than the rest. It looks like women care less what their partners want in bed, while men do not dare to publicly expose their desires.

In order to get out of this dead end, women need to take a step back and consider what their partners naturally like and don’t dare to ask, what stimulates their desire and what they would like to do. All of this could be possible if women broke their cultural heritage that teaches them that they want an active and powerful, yet careful and gentle man. Many sexologists suggest that modern men are carrying a heavy burden – they must always be ready and prepared. But, there is a solution which comes in the form of love and emotions. Rediscovering these feelings is the right way to start. If a man is able to do that he ceases to be insecure, passive and frightened. They recognize their own instincts and faithfully follow these instincts without fear of being characterized as crude and vulgar. So, the solution lies in understanding, knowledge of the male pleasure mechanism.

Many studies and surveys have confirmed that the taste of men has not changed. It is a well known fact that the stronger erection is still falling on erotic images. This means that the look is the first stimulation involved in male pleasure and satisfaction. Watching their partner taking her clothes off and her naked body is an exciting foreplay for many men. So, indulge yourself on his look with the lights on, highlight your sex appeal in beautiful underwear and his sexual desire will be awakened. Another thing that most men really like is quick sex. So, what to do if he proposes quick and even a bit wild sex? Simply, let them do it and you will understand that at that moment that is his strongest desire. If you please him he will look at sex like fun activity and he will be really happy. It doesn’t make any sense to strongly condemn his desire, it is better to accept his request as a game and as an integral part of life.

Men love to be touched and massaged too. In this way they feel like they are in the center of your attention. The tenderness that you provide in the bed creates great comfort and satisfaction even when he doesn’t admit or give back. According to Oriental knowledge, sexual energy points are located on the ribs in the middle of the chest. By lightly pressuring these points you will be able to perform a stimulating massage. Another hot spot is located on the soles of the feet. The feet are sensitive erogenous zone although very often people don’t pay enough attention to this area.

Keep in mind that men don’t have much understanding and will for creativity, unless it is their proposal. Over some period of time men relax and gain confidence and this is the moment when you can take the imitative 

Sunday, July 27, 2014

Sexual practices of a different kind

Sex: An act of love or a fetish?
While some of us are content with the idea of sex being an intense expression of love, the truth lies somewhere else. The conventionally approved act yet remains under wraps of shame; but the repression caused as a result of such controlled discretion seems to be manifesting in bizarre forms. Thus, redefining the purpose of sex is a whole new level of mania and fetish being practised by people around the world. Such unique practices that deviate from the accepted form of sexual explorations come under paraphilias- sexual arousal directed towards non-conventional objects of desire.

Agalmatophilia: a fetish for inanimate objects
The reason for such fetish could lie anywhere between battered relationships to poor social skills. Most sexual repressed people express their sexual fantasy over mannequins, dolls and other pseudo-human inanimate figures. The fantasy may extend to exchange of sexual pleasure between the objects or the thought of transforming oneself into the object itself. Pygmalionism, a fetish where the person develops feeling for the statue/object made by them, is also a form of Agalmatophilia.

Salirophilia: vandalism or merely harmless fetish?
This form of paraphilia involves the fetishist distorting the appearance of the object of desire. Dishevelling the objects appearance by tearing their hair and damaging the face and clothing among other things is a sexually exciting experience for the person.

BDSM: a reformed act of slavery?
Among other bizarre practices, this is the most obsessively discussed one, thanks to the popular fictional work by EL James. There are four aspects to BDSM: Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. When clubbed in pairs, for instance, bondage and discipline or Sado-masochism, they become a sexual practice. Due to its unconventionality on all levels, BDSM is celebrated as a sub-cultural practice among non-normative members such as cross-dressers, animal players, and latex and rubber aficionados among others.

Typically, conventional sexual acts are power neutral. However, BDSM allows for informed consent to enact the master-slave relationship, wherein the dominating partner occupies the tops position while the subservient other falls under the category of the bottoms. Sadists and masochists are characterized by their sexual desire to inflict and receive pain and humiliation during the act.

According to modern psychology, Sado-masochistic practices are harmless provided they cause emotional distress to the person involved. On a subjective note, the practice can be considered as a therapeutic means to de-stress from daily, mundane activities. More importantly, as long as it is consensual, there is no room for worry. Legally, however, such practices may be considered demoralizing to the individuals well being and are therefore banned under certain jurisdictions.

Considering how shady these practices are to most people, it is surprising to find certain activities being commercialised on a large scale. Take Nyotaimori, for instance. This form of paraphilia involves sushi being presented to the consumer on a naked human body. The whole act is polished to make it not look like a sexual practice- pubic hair shaved, body being cleansed and enhanced with fragrant oils among other things. This kind of food play requires the naked body to remain still for hours and withstand the cold temperature emitted by the food. The sexual experience will improve sexual performance as well.

Finally, it is evident from the above instances that it is not the fear of the act that requires attention, but its repressive forms that need to be curbed from harming civilised societies. 

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Few reasons why some people don’t have enough sex

If the lack of sex is on a level that starts to make you worried, maybe it’s time to find out what the core of this problem is. Of course, there is more than one reason for this unpleasant situation, so take your time do a research and maybe you will be able to solve your problem without asking for help.

One of the most common causes for lack of sex is stress. Because of the fast paced and fulfilled everyday life many couples just don’t have enough energy for intimate moments at the end of the day. Some couples find themselves living as roommates after a while. They only share responsibilities together (like bills and some tasks around the home) while the sex and the intimacy are completely gone. If stress is the reason for lack of sex in your relationship, it’s time for you and your partner to reorganize your time. If you in a middle of some really busy period try to schedule at least one evening that will be reserved just for the two of you.

Many people take their partners for granted and this is exactly why they have infrequent sexual intercourses. This feeling is usually developed after a period in which sex life became boring, lazy, full of obstacles and bad experiences. This is the moment when you both need to remember that sexual pleasures are one of the basic needs of human beings and that these pleasures can be fulfilled in the easiest and in the best way with the person we love and the person who completely understands our needs. This is of course our partner and not some stranger.

Lack of sexual desire is another reason that leads to lack of sex. This situation is usually linked with couples that have long relationship behind them. It is important to understand that this lack of interest is not because some of the partners have changed his appearance (gaining weight for example) but because people start to forget some small details like applying perfume, shaving, depilation, sexy underwear and some other things that were used in the past and that surely increased the sexual desire. This is a process of continual re-conquering of the heart of your loved one so don’t forget that.

In many cases, the moments spend in bed transform from love to routine. This is not something unusual but if one of the partners notices that it’s better to start conversation so both of them can find a solution. Keeping these things in you won’t help anyone. There is nothing unusual to talk about your sexual desires with your partner so don’t be afraid or embarrassed to start a conversation like that.

Frequent quarrels between partners usually cause decreased sexual activity but they can lead to wild sex too. Quarrels that are solved and both partners admit their mistakes lead to great sex. If the quarrels are not solved and they happen very often the partners should seek help from professional therapists.  

Monday, June 23, 2014

Sex after a Stroke

Sexuality is really different after a stroke. There are some consequences and those who want to experience normal life after a stroke should be aware of them.

Strokes are responsible for over 15% of deaths in developed countries and the numbers are higher in undeveloped countries. 3 out of 10 patients that have experienced a stroke have permanent consequences although most of them don’t need help with their everyday activities. Around 20% of these patients need help with at least one daily activity and some of them need institutional help. More severe cases of stroke leave patients with severe disabilities.

Stroke (cerebrovascular accident (CVA)) is a disease that dramatically impacts the life of those who are suffering from it and also the lives of the people that leave with that person. In some cases it can destroy the balance between the partners that existed before. A stroke usually affects the walking, senses, emotional life and even mutual understanding between partners. All these things can significantly affect the sexual life.

When it comes to stroke and erectile dysfunction, nearly 8 in 10 men experience them but the good thing is that they usually disappear after few months (without any special treatment for sexual dysfunction). However, many couples have difficulties in their bed years after the stroke occurred. A special kind of problems can be caused by urinal difficulties that usually appear after a stroke.  Psychological factors such as low self-esteem can also impact the sex life and they are often caused by antidepressant intake. Sexuality and relationship with the partner can cause emotional difficulties and behavioral changes like apathy, explosiveness etc. Many people fear that being sexually active again could lead to another stroke and that’s why they avoid sexual intercourse. These fears are not based on facts and they are just irrational. In some cases partners have to find another way of communication. This is a factor that can really complicate sexuality after stroke because some people have difficulties to speak and even understand other people.

Stroke can hit different regions of the brain. In some cases, it may damage the area of sexuality. Stroke can also affect the hypothalamus, region of the brain that is managing the actions of the hormones. In rare cases this damage can lead to a reverse process where the stroke sufferer has increased sexual desire and it can even lead to unusual/inappropriate sexual behavior.

The biggest problem is the rejection of the current situation and a strong desire to return in the time before the stroke happened. By accepting the current situation, patients can have faster progress in their life. The fear that the stroke sufferer will be rejected by his or her partner is strong but the truth is that the other partner can more easily accept the physical changes compared to the psychological changes.

In some cases there is a link between pregnancy and stroke. Stroke can be a result of taking birth control pills. Women during pregnancy are facing three times higher risk of stroke. However this last claim is rejected by some researchers and this is an area that still needs to be explored. 

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Converse for a better sex life

Communication is key in any relationship. Communication about sex can be difficult; even though most adults participate, they still find it difficult to discuss it. One of the key issues in discussion is embarrassment. Secondary is that women typically use more words than a man, often these words can be large or complicated which are just a bit harder to be processed. The last most common problem is fear.

Embarrassment is hard to overcome, the most important thing to remember is that there is a very good chance your partner has some changes they would like to make in their sex life. While some people find it no problem to talk about sex, others find it a very awkward topic. There is nothing wrong with telling your partner you are embarrassed about the topic. Using code words, or scientific names might be easier for you. Some people prefer Penis or Vagina; others find it easier to talk about Clams and Sausages,

Women use larger words and more of them. While men are often straight to the point, “wanna have sex tonight” women are usually more subtle and this can be a problem for others to understand. Women may be lack of libido than men, you may need to heat up the situation. Women also tend to use technical terms. While men are usually pretty astute on sexual position, women still baffle them on occasion. Men do not ask for directions in a car, forget about in the bedroom. Be clear and use simple tears. “I’d like you to rub my breasts while we fuck” is a clear message; nothing will be lost in transition. “Using I wish you touched me more in the bedroom” is vague and may not get the effects you want.

Fear of rejection is last. This is especially hard if you are interested in something ‘out there’ or taboo. It is better to be honest, make it clear that your sexual desire do not have to happen but you are interested. Trying new positions is just the start. Ice, heat, restraints and toys are all possible acts to spice up your love life. If you find it difficult to just broach the subject, one way is to locate a porn movie with the acts you are interested in, while the movie is playing a simple comment like “that looks interesting” or “we should give that a try” usually will spark a conversation, or action.

Communication is always key, everyone communicates differently, but the basics remain, be clear about your needs and wants. Do not expect to get everything you want while giving nothing your partner wants. Compromise is key; a conversation can lead nowhere if compromise is not an option.

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Improve Your Sexual Life

Sex is considered by many to be an important part of any relationship. To understand why, you must first realize that sex and love are two different things. In this day and age, there are lots of people that have casual sex who are not in love at all. They just do it because it gives them pleasure or they are still in the dating phase of their relationship. When it gets to the point where two people can say that they love each other, then the sex changes along with their feelings towards one another. This doesn't mean the sex necessarily gets worse, which is a common misconception among people who are afraid to make a commitment. The sex actually gets better when it is with somebody you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. That is why the first step in improve your sexual life is to find a partner that you can truly love and who will return that love for you.

If you just think that having multiple sexual partners is what a good sex life is all about, then you are mistaken. Unless you are as rich as Charlie Sheen or Hugh Hefner, chances are you won’t have the opportunities to have multiple sexual partners when you get older. That is why finding a partner that you are in love with is crucial because they won’t judge your looks as they start to fade. However, for a couple to improve their sex lives over the course of their relationship, they will have to get a little bit creative with the sex. If you just keep having sex in bed for a minute or two every night, then that is not exciting. Therefore, you have to find ways to make it exciting. Some couples find it exciting to do a little bit of role playing before the sex. 

This is where the two pretend to be different people who meet at a bar and then go “home” with each other to have sex. Another way couples improve their sex lives is to try different sexual positions in the bedroom. For this you should buy a KamaSutra guide that will teach you different sexual positions that will increase the sexual pleasure of the sex and make it more sensual. Overall, couples need to make time for each other and have sex in different ways as often as possible. If you both have busy schedules, then you should find at least a few minutes out of the day to have sex. This could even mean having a “quickie” on your desk at the office during your lunch break. Whatever you can fit in is better than nothing at all because the longer you go without having sex with your partner then the more likely one of you will cheat. Either that or you will resent one another to the point where it becomes a sexless marriage and you end up sleeping in separate beds. You have to keep the fire and romance alive in the relationship or else it will cease to exist. The more sex you have, it will further boost testosterone level and sexual desire.



Monday, December 9, 2013

8 Super Sex Tips for Men

8 Super Sex Tips for Men

  • Before Foreplay: Super sex starts much before foreplay. Sex is more about emotion than motion. So vibe together much before the real act by talking frank about what you expect from each other in bed. A couple of days’ abstinence sets the stage for super sex, enhances your sexual health. Abstinence heightens the yearning of both the parties. 
  • Eat and act: Mankind has discovered great sex enhancing elements in common foods. Some foods are aphrodisiacs arousing sexual desire, others treat impotent, erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Garlic, onion, carrots, asparagus, drumsticks, saffron, ginger and raisin are some of the home remedies for sexual dysfunctions. If you suffer from any of them adopt these home remedies. They are not harmful.
  • Play it well: Foreplay is the essential appetizer and starter rolled into one: never give it a short shrift. Foreplay lifts your bodies and mind to the required level for great sex. It sends the autonomic nervous system to overdrive contributing positively towards sensuality, excitement and strength of orgasm. Great foreplay acts as a remedy for premature ejaculation.
  • Mindful love: Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. It relies on the principle of ‘here and now’. Like you get the best taste of the food if you focus on every chew, you also get best pleasure when you are attentive to every move, touch, whisper and whimper that your act produces. When both the partners are mindful, well, it is a sure shot sexual enhancer.
  • Stick to the basics: Kamasutra talks about sixty-four sexual postures. But to achieve super sex experience you need just a few basic ones. Most exotic and acrobatic postures may be good for your memories but not so good for a satisfying sexual act. In achieving the exotic positions your mind loses focus on real sex.
  • Fantasy: This may sound like contrary to the Mindful love tip at number four, but it is not. While in the middle of the act let you mind wander a bit, to the dark secret locale where you always wanted to have sex maybe with somebody else—yes somebody else. Your mind goes to the exotic locale with your secret partner but it also stays with the moaning, the stroke, the touch you are experiencing now. Letting the mind roam for a while delays your premature ejaculation.
  • Share your fantasies: Sharing your fantasies with your partner and hearing hers is a proven sex enhancer. This helps you get to know each other better for better sex. Sharing fantasies not only makes your imagination run wild, it gives your brain—and body—an outlet for expressing yourself. Use your imagination, and keep it sexy.
  • Make love: You may have sex with anybody, but can make love with the special someone. In love making your thoughts join hands with your body. You want to give everything and in turn you receive hundred percent back. When you and your partner are in the same page your stress and tension about the sexual encounter is gone and with that your fears of erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Both of you get into a rhythm and enjoy great sex together without the fear of leaving each other high and dry. 


Sunday, June 30, 2013

Male menopause andropause

Whatever or however you name it, it's the terms that describe the drop in testosterone level and male menopause is something that similar to female menopause. It will have condition like menopause, for example   moodiness, fatigue, weight gain, depression, decreased sex drive, decreased muscle mass and bone loss. A menopause for female may affect their ability to conceive a child, but a male menopause won't affect men's ability to fathered a child. Some of the healthy men can even fathered a child in their 80's. Men do not have their period, but will feel blue like women, just that men do not show their weakness so much.

This male menopause will affect men's sexual activity? Yes, it will, it won't make you erectile dysfunction but it may decrease your sex drives. You don't even have the interest in sex anymore so you may not know that you are suffering a erectile dysfunction. If you are having erectile dysfunction, do try Activ Homme to boost testosterone level, sexual desire and stamina for lasting longer in bed. How do you know if you already have menopause, you don't and you will have to consult a doctor to find out. It's hard to find out whether it's andropause or erectile dysfunction, ED happens when particular nerves, arteries and muscles breaks down.

Menopause for male also affect by hormone production, when men getting older, the testosterone level and hormone will slow down, reduce gradually. It won't stop in a relatively short of time like women, when hormone production low, sexual function, energy or mood will go down as well. Learn more about hormone and andropause online, you will find out a lot and know how to take care yourself more. It's important to take care of your health, not only for sexual function.

Monday, April 1, 2013

Better Sexual Relationship with Trust

When talking about how to start a sexual relationship with girls, what we have in mind is how do we seduce her or lure her into bedroom. I think there are some articles here to discuss about better sexual relationship thing, well today we look it from the other perspective, not talking about having good sex technique for better sex. Not talking about the seducing part, that's the playboy style, why not today we do it with the good guy method. How you open up her heart and gain her trust to make her feel comfortable to have sex with you. If you are not able to open up her heart how are you going to get her having sex with you without hesitation?

When you are able to open up her heart, then she is more willing to share her things with you. When you are trying to gain her trust, you are not doing all the talking only but may lead the conversation to let her to express herself more. This is the way for you to get to know her more. Let her know that you can be there for her all the time and you are her best friend. Don't get caught in the middle and going directly into her friend zone, you may not be able to get out from it then. How do you do that? Don't reveal yourself fully, keep some mystery feel between both of you. A little mystery may lead to a better sexual relationship at the start. When you reveal too much about yourself, you may let her feel that you are too easy to handle, so it's better that you know how to make things interesting and maintain some mystery about yourself.

During the conversation, you may let her feel that you have some sexual desire of feel with her, implied. You have to take some risk here as you may not knowing her well, But it's ok to have some kind of trial and error, if you are not taking any risk, you may let her feel that you are too boring, let her feel some excitement.  After all, you want to make good love to her and not only a friend, you have nothing much to loss right. Who knows that she may have the same thought as you? If she is thinking the same thing then you may get what you want immediately.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

How to start sex?

It's not easy to start sex or love making, how should you tell her that you want to have sex? It's easy if both of you are in the same page. What is she is not in the mood for sex today? Or you guys are making love each time you meet up and you don't want to make her feel like you look for her just because you want to have sex? It may look awkward if you make her feel like you are there just because of her vagina. try imagine that you are in a relationship for a long time.

What should you do? Ya, you have to do your homework. Well the easy way of course is a romantic dinner with some wine, a walk under the star or on the beach can help her to be in the mood for sex. Some creative things that you may try out. Food again, but this time you cook it. It's a good idea for those who are good at cooking. Cook some of your best dish and feed her, wine will help you a lot. You may ask her to help you to wash the dish after the meal, then you will have a good chance to hug and kiss her from behind. Sure you will know what to do next.

Watching movie can help her to get in the mood for sex? I don't mean porn, porn will help you some time, but I don't think you wants to use it every single time. This time use some sexy movies that may bring her into the mood. This is the natural Viagra that boost sexual desire and boost testosterone level. Make a comfortable place in front of the television with pillow so you guys can enjoy the movie. You may let your hand run around her body during the movie, start from insensitive area.

The last idea that we would like to suggest, strip poke. This is a Natural Male Enhancement Supplement for her. This is one of my favourite game to help her to get into sex. We do this very often, it's one of the method that works well and easy to proceed. You may make the game more fun like ask her to put on a lingerie or anything that will turn you on when she is all naked. There are a lot of games out there that may help you, just google it.

Don't let yourself stop here, we just give you some idea here and you can make it more fun. Enjoy your sex.