Why you are not getting laid

You may have the experience that the girl you are dating, maybe a few times suddenly are not interested with you and you may wonder why. There are some real life cases that tell you that why you are not getting laid, some of them may look like nonsense to you but just bear in mind that this is how girls think. The hardest part is not having good sex. The hardest thing to control here, I think it maybe the conversation. You can't be too silent but when you are sharing something, you may have something that may offend her or make her unhappy. When you are sharing something about yourself, don't brag too much and try to be down to earth. Try to make her laugh at your jokes? Becareful with it, just look at her reaction all the time and try to know what she is thinking.

A late night snack that may turn her off? Yes, there is a case that the woman smell something from the guy he date and that just made her fell gross. The guy who took his snack with him to the woman's apartment ended up going back without anything happen. If the girl love you a lot sure you are on the safe side, but if the girl is sitting on the fence and trying to find something that she doesn't like about you, there are plenty of reasons that will turn her off. Not to mention that you want a better sex. What you can do here is trying your best to avoid it. Your cleanliness, not only yourself but your room as well. A lot of women will feel gross if your room is too dirty. There are two cases in this article of Men fitness mention about cleanliness, one of them saw some used condom beside the dustbin, the other saw a mess under the bed. Used condom just lying on the floor of your room? I think any of the reasonable men know that it's stupid, you make the girl feel like a slut to hang out with guys like you.

Do you have a dog with you in your apartment? Make sure he or she won't interrupt you while you are having sex. A girl experienced this before that the guy she met have a dog in the room, and the dog licks her leg while they are trying to have sex. It's a big distraction, and when she complains about it, the guy just petting his dog and the girl feels strange as she is petting him but he is petting a dog? She just left without a word. Kissing skill, this is the foreplay, you may have to practice it more unless you met a girl who loves you a lot and doesn't care about sex life. There are no short cuts but to practice it with your girl friend.

So guys, don't only think about improving your sex skill, all these things here can affect you as well. There are no cure for all these, you can only learn and becareful with them.

Sexual Performance Anxiety

Men always have some pressure of sexual performance, the mindset and thinking that is in the society makes them believe that they should have thoughts like this. Examples are as follow:


-can always get an erection.
-should initiate sex.
-always want sex.
-should be in control.
-give women mind-blowing orgasms.
-should have a big penis, and if they don’t, they are inadequate.
-should know what to do in the bedroom.
-should succeed.
-should hide any feelings of inadequacy or vulnerability

All these believes makes men so worried and always thinking different ways to improve sex life and sometimes they worry too much that it affect their sexual performance. They need to know that sex itself is an activity that involve 2 parties and it depends on both parties to have a good sex life. If you are worry about things like this on the bed, how are you going to enjoy sex? Like what we have discuss before, sex depend on 2 person, it require communication, different people have different preference, you can't bring all your previous experience to expect it works perfectly in current relationships. Communicate and learn is a process.


-Ask your partner to caress you, and say how you would like to be touched.
-Consciously breathe during sex.
-Say yes when you want to.
-Say no when you want to.
-Have sex only when you want it.
-Self-pleasure (masturbate) slowly.
-Fantasize when you self-pleasure.
-Touch yourself all over, and notice where it feels good.
-Talk about sex with your partner.
-Have a sexual experience with your partner without having intercourse.
-Touch your partner’s body for your own pleasure.
-Take care of your body.

There are some creative ways for you to improve sex life with your partners here. Yes, masturbate is good sometimes as it helps you to learn more about yourself, it's a way to learn about yourself. There is no shy to masturbate. Know about your body, know where is your sensitive area, you can let your partner know about it and they will know how to pleasure and satisfy you. Foreplay is a very good way to learn about your partner's body, and we have mention many time that girls do enjoy a lot during foreplay. Most of them enjoy it more than sex itself. Learn about their body and you can make them orgasm in no time and sure they will give you a very good response.

Why do people have sex?

Came across an article research why people have sex, omg, I though it's in our blood? And people still setup  research to find it out. Sex is a need of all kind of animals, right? The report seems to make sex more reasonable by saying that our brain and body are design to motivate us to have sex more. Even that we are not design the way it is, we are born for it. I think that's why we have 2 kind of sexes since we exist, male and female.

And sex can do so much of good to you, well let me come out with some reason to make sex better. Sex burns calories, I bet this is one of the most interesting way to burn calories, do you know that even kissing can burn calories as well? What else? Having sex makes your mood better, you will have a more pleasant day when you have satisfying sex, right? Sex does reduce stress, and this kind of entertainment is much better than other, it's free, ok if you have a partner. You prefer to have sex or movie or even a football match?

"Dummies.com said that many people engage in sex for the sensory experience, the wide range of physical and emotional pleasures that a person can derive from sexual activity. Part of the glue that holds longtime love together is sex" Ha, now only I know that dummies site also talk about sex. The sensory experience, the need of being hug and feel of being care and love. I guess that's the emotional pleasures means here. Sex is also one of the main factor that helps to make the relationship stronger, sex is something that can't be miss from a romantic relationship.

Having babies, is it a good thing or bad thing? It really depends on you, but luckily most of us still love to have our own children, I guess babies is one of the good thing about sex. Sex can improve social status and a kind of revenge as well? The social status it means here is to become popular, the only thing that I can think of it is using sex as a tool to become a star. And revenge? That is a very bad way to revenge, sex as a revenge?