Sexual Performance Anxiety

Men always have some pressure of sexual performance, the mindset and thinking that is in the society makes them believe that they should have thoughts like this. Examples are as follow:


-can always get an erection.
-should initiate sex.
-always want sex.
-should be in control.
-give women mind-blowing orgasms.
-should have a big penis, and if they don’t, they are inadequate.
-should know what to do in the bedroom.
-should succeed.
-should hide any feelings of inadequacy or vulnerability

All these believes makes men so worried and always thinking different ways to improve sex life and sometimes they worry too much that it affect their sexual performance. They need to know that sex itself is an activity that involve 2 parties and it depends on both parties to have a good sex life. If you are worry about things like this on the bed, how are you going to enjoy sex? Like what we have discuss before, sex depend on 2 person, it require communication, different people have different preference, you can't bring all your previous experience to expect it works perfectly in current relationships. Communicate and learn is a process.


-Ask your partner to caress you, and say how you would like to be touched.
-Consciously breathe during sex.
-Say yes when you want to.
-Say no when you want to.
-Have sex only when you want it.
-Self-pleasure (masturbate) slowly.
-Fantasize when you self-pleasure.
-Touch yourself all over, and notice where it feels good.
-Talk about sex with your partner.
-Have a sexual experience with your partner without having intercourse.
-Touch your partner’s body for your own pleasure.
-Take care of your body.

There are some creative ways for you to improve sex life with your partners here. Yes, masturbate is good sometimes as it helps you to learn more about yourself, it's a way to learn about yourself. There is no shy to masturbate. Know about your body, know where is your sensitive area, you can let your partner know about it and they will know how to pleasure and satisfy you. Foreplay is a very good way to learn about your partner's body, and we have mention many time that girls do enjoy a lot during foreplay. Most of them enjoy it more than sex itself. Learn about their body and you can make them orgasm in no time and sure they will give you a very good response.

Why do people have sex?

Came across an article research why people have sex, omg, I though it's in our blood? And people still setup  research to find it out. Sex is a need of all kind of animals, right? The report seems to make sex more reasonable by saying that our brain and body are design to motivate us to have sex more. Even that we are not design the way it is, we are born for it. I think that's why we have 2 kind of sexes since we exist, male and female.

And sex can do so much of good to you, well let me come out with some reason to make sex better. Sex burns calories, I bet this is one of the most interesting way to burn calories, do you know that even kissing can burn calories as well? What else? Having sex makes your mood better, you will have a more pleasant day when you have satisfying sex, right? Sex does reduce stress, and this kind of entertainment is much better than other, it's free, ok if you have a partner. You prefer to have sex or movie or even a football match?

"Dummies.com said that many people engage in sex for the sensory experience, the wide range of physical and emotional pleasures that a person can derive from sexual activity. Part of the glue that holds longtime love together is sex" Ha, now only I know that dummies site also talk about sex. The sensory experience, the need of being hug and feel of being care and love. I guess that's the emotional pleasures means here. Sex is also one of the main factor that helps to make the relationship stronger, sex is something that can't be miss from a romantic relationship.

Having babies, is it a good thing or bad thing? It really depends on you, but luckily most of us still love to have our own children, I guess babies is one of the good thing about sex. Sex can improve social status and a kind of revenge as well? The social status it means here is to become popular, the only thing that I can think of it is using sex as a tool to become a star. And revenge? That is a very bad way to revenge, sex as a revenge?

Sleeping disorder and Erectile dysfucntion

A research just show that sleeping disorder can create more health problem than those we normally think of. We knew that your sexual performance may be weaker if you don't get enough rest, but we never think that it will relate to erectile dysfunction directly. You may search for this in msn 'Sleep problems tied to erectile dysfunction and incontinence', and this information is getting from 2 research. For those party animal and workaholic, this may give you a wake up call. Take care of your health or you won't be able to give your sex partner orgasm. Research shows that sleep apnea may cause erectile dysfunction, and men have higher risk of getting it. The research is actually trying to study the sleeping pattern thus helping to improve sleeping quality to gain a healthier life. For those who are suffering insomnia, sleeping disorder and so on, there are few tips to help you improve your sleeping quality. Avoid caffeine, these thing can keep your eyes wide open at night if you are sensitive to it. Exercise, exercise is always a good way to make your body healthier, you can sleep better while your exhausted. A comfortable bed, pillow, room etc. to pamper yourself with. Leave your pressure and stress in the office and relax yourself, worry about your work only in your office. Your life won't get any better by taking it back with you. Sleep tight and take care of your health, you will have a strong penis then.