Many people are wondering why sex can’t be less
complicated. The truth is that sex can be less complicated if our mind doesn’t
interfere with our body and wants to control our body. Most of the people
(especially in modern times) are used to believe in their thoughts and
judgments and completely ignore the messages that come from their bodies. All
the major institutions used for socialization like schools, companies,
religious institutions and even families are preaching how we should control
our drives because that’s the only way to stay out of trouble, to be respected
and valued.
As we grow older, the mind starts to perform another
type of control. We are starting to figure out that we should not do things
that might offend or disturb anyone else. We start to behave in a way that we
always try to get other people’s approval. By the time someone gets ready for
his or her first sexual experience the things might get very complicated in the
area of sexual relationships. You have managed to master few strategies in
order to control your thoughts and manipulate the opinions and feelings of the
other people. This is certainly a situation that doesn’t promise having good
sex.
Being worried is one of the reasons of having bad sex.
People tend to worry about everything. But the truth is that most of those
worries are useless and they prevent us to reach our intimacy. Don’t let these
worries control your life and block the ability to share intimate experiences
with your partner.
A good sex is not just regular sex. In many cases
couples consider sex as some kind of routine that must be finished a couple of
times a week. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with that but this is not a
definition of good sex. Bringing intense emotions in the sexual relationship
from time to time can mean a lot because it will deepen the relationship in
general.
Good sex is a pleasant and fun experience for both
partners. In those cases partners just feel the bond between them. Good sex
usually doesn’t happen automatically and it’s rather a process of learning.
Good sex requires few things like knowledge, skills, patience, time and
practice.
A lot of people pay attention to certain techniques but
good sex is linked with presence. A man or a woman that knows all the sexual techniques won’t satisfy your needs if it isn’t honest and open about his or
her feelings. The techniques can be considered to be forms of intimate
communication.
When we talk about sex, we usually like to compare our
sex life with the sex lives of the people we know. We often get the feeling
that everyone else have better sex life than we do and that they have sex more
frequently. Remember that frequency doesn’t mean good sex. Would you rather
have unexciting sex each night or great sex once or twice a week?
Sex is one of the greatest gifts of live, believe in
yourself, believe in your partner and always talk and practice new things in
your sex life.
