Involuntary muscle spasm, which tightens the vaginal
entrance, is very unpleasant thing that prevents woman to have normal sex life.
Vaginism, or muscle spasm at the entrance of the vagina, is
activated when attempting sexual intercourse. In this way the penis is
prevented to enter the vagina. This spasm literally squeezes and completely
closes vagina making it impossible to open it. In most cases is has nervous
origin, and it occurs due to various fears linked with sex. It may be a fear
from the actual sexual intercourse, which may appear due to some uncomfortable
experiences during youth. In rare cases these fears are associated with sexual
assaults within family, rape or it may be a direct consequence of the violent
and egoistic behavior of the partner.
Vaginal muscle spasm often occurs when a virgin tries to
lose innocence. Women/girls are often very scared from the pain that may be
caused by the penetration of the penis in their vagina which leads to spasms. Another
situation which can lead to these spasms is when a girl is not sexually mature
when she is trying to lose her virginity. So, it’s a bad idea to lose virginity
only because some other girls lost their virginity or only because a girl
thinks that this the right time when she is actually not physically ready for
that.
Many women/girls are afraid of pregnancy and that’s why they
experience vaginism - the spasm of muscles in the lower part of the vagina.
Things cannot be changed even if the partner uses a condom because we are
talking about paranoid fear that completely eliminates the possibility of
having normal sexual intercourse. Even taking birth control pills won’t help
women that feel this fear, because this is mostly psychological and not
rational fear. Finally, there are women who feel guilt before they have sex.
This can happen very often in women that cheat their partners or women who feel
that sex before marriage is wrong. They usually don’t have problems when they
have sex for the first time and vaginism develops when they have sex for the
second time or in specific situations.
In many cases, women need to talk with a doctor or an expert
in this field. They can explain them that the fear they feel is completely
irrational. Many experts consider vaginism as a type of impotency. This is
especially the case when we talk about vaginism caused by psychological
reasons. Women should also talk with their partners but they can also help
themselves too. By practicing masturbation women can find out when the spasms occur
and what exactly is happening in their vagina. It’s a good thing to explore
your own anatomy and even stop with sex that requires penetration for a while.
Those who are suffering from vaginism should know that the
process of elimination of this occurrence requires time and patience. They must
accept that they will have to spend some time masturbating. They should
simulate penetration by using smaller objects or their fingers. Use of
lubricants is strongly recommended. In this way women can get used to penetration
and have actual sex with penetration after some time.
