Sex & you

Sex & you

Thursday, May 29, 2014

Few Things that Negatively Affect Fertility

Fertility is the natural ability to create children. However not all women have the same fertility level because fertility can be affected by many things. There are few things that have negative impact on this natural ability and some of them can be avoided.

The first thing that affects fertility in a negative way is the process of aging. Aging affects all our organs but the ovaries are one of the first organs that grows old which is a direct cause of reduced fertility in older women and it is often the cause of anomalies of the fetus. Scientists are still trying to determine the direct connection with these anomalies and aging but the probable cause of these irregularities can be probably found in the damaged chromosomes found in the eggs in older women. According to some statistics eight out ten women that are around 25 years old can get pregnant after six months of regular unprotected sexual intercourses. When the woman turns 40 the chances are significantly reduced and the same statistics say that one out of ten women can get pregnant with the same level of intercourses. However, despite this fact, today many young women postpone their pregnancy because of the fast paced lifestyle and the pursuit of career. Many women decide to have their first baby after they step in their 30s. This is the period when the reproductive ability begins to decline. Unlike women, men’s reproductive capacity decline very slowly.

Sometimes the working environment or the place where we live can affect the fertility. Special types of chemicals and fumes can be toxic when it comes to reproduction and they are proven to be responsible for the decline in fertility. They are equally dangerous for both men and women and they can also cause damage to the fetus. That’s why couples who want children should avoid places with high percentage of industrial chemicals and other toxins in the air.
Smokers often read the warning signs on the cigarettes but don’t take them seriously. These warnings are there for a reason. Besides many other dangerous that it brings, smoking can affect the reproduction ability. Women who begin to smoke while they are teenagers have increased chances of getting tubal infertility. Of course, alcohol abuse and drugs can cause even more problems.

Women who practice unprotected sex with multiple partners can get a sexually transmitted disease. The bad thing about these STD is that in many cases they don’t produce visible signs (Chlamydia for example). They can cause different types of damages to the fallopian tube which can lead to infertility. Even if the STD is noticed on time, the woman can still experience some of its unwanted effects. That’s why having protected sex and sex with partners that you know well is always a good idea.

Finally, stress can cause a lot of problems with our health and It can also affect the fertility in women. Stress can lead to depression which ultimately leads to irregular periods and improper ovulation.         

Monday, May 26, 2014

What are Pearly Penile Papules?

Pearly penile papules are very common in young men. They are also known as Tyson Glands and Hirsuties papilaris genital (medial term).

Pearly penile papules are easy to spot. They come in a form of tiny, white-yellowish embossed dots and they are completely normal variation of the way the penile skin looks like. The surface is smooth and a little bit raised from the surrounding skin, in the form of a dome or similar form. What is typical for them is that in most cases they don’t appear all over glans penis. Over time they fade and they become less visible. Most men have small number of papules that are less than one millimeter long and they are usually located around the glans penis. In some cases they can be larger than one millimeter. Men who have pearly penile papules often describe them or confuse them with acne, pimples or some kind of skin change.

It is important to understand that pearly papules are very common and they usually appear during adolescence or when the men is entering his sexually most active period. Doctors are still unable to determine what the exact cause of their occurrence is. What is certain is that they are not a result of sexually transmitted diseases and sexual contact of any kind or poor hygiene. Men that are uncircumcised have twice the chance to develop pearly penile papules compared to circumcised men. Taking care of your hygiene can improve sexual performance as well. 

Men who are younger than 30 years have a lot more chance to get pearly papules, cases of occurrence of pearly papules above this age are rare. They are definitely not a venereal disease, they can’t turn into a tumor and they cannot cause any other medical condition.

Many men visit their doctor when they notice a change like that in their penis and that is completely normal. But, only after the first examination the doctor rules out the possibility of disease. In some cases papules are similar to genital warts and that’s when biopsy is performed.

Pearly penile papules don’t have symptoms and don’t require treatment. If there are symptoms like itching, redness or similar symptoms they are coming from another condition not because of the papules. However, some patients still want to remove these pearly papules and they can choose various methods to do that. Removal of papules can be successfully done with laser therapy, electro therapy and plastic surgery. Although there were attempts to treat papules with cryotherapy, those attempts are almost never successful. There aren’t any drugs or creams that have proven to be effective in the process of removal of pearly penile papules. Scraping the papules on your own is not recommended because it can lead to infection and damages to the tissue and the papules tend to reoccur after a while.

Many men feel unattractive and embarrassed because of the papules and they tend to avoid sexual intercourses. They can also have negative impact in their self-confidence. The easiest thing to do is to accept that these papules are just a normal variation of penile skin structure. 

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Circumcision – Benefits and Risks

Circumcision is a procedure (usually performed by a doctor) in which excessive skin found on the top of the penis is removed. This procedure has roots in ancient times. Many religions advise circumcision of males while they are still children and in some cases even few days after they are born. According to some experts, the reason behind the popularity of circumcision in many cultures is that they consider male genitalia to be impure and aesthetic in their natural form. In some cases (some African cultures) this circumcision is performed in women too. Besides the religious reasons, there can be few other reasons too. For example, some men have trouble pulling the foreskin of the penis back because that causes a lot of pain for them. The pain is completely gone with the removal of the foreskin.

Many women also find uncircumcised penises to be impure and unattractive and they find having sex with circumcised men to be more comfortable. But they often forget the fact that a circumcised penis can affect their sexual pleasure too. It is scientifically proved that circumcision reduces sexual sensibility of both partners participating in the sex act which means that it can affect the sexual pleasure too. The foreskin of the penis acts as an erogenous tissue, which among other things means that improves the sexual sensitivity of the penis during sexual intercourse. The foreskin also acts as a protector against external factors. The glans penis is the place where different parts of the nerves intertwine. The constant exposure of glans penis in circumcised men eventually causes decrease of sensitivity on touching and arousal in the penis. According to some researchers that have tested circumcised men that took this procedure after they’ve become sexually active have shown that many of them had decreased sexual sensitivity compared to the time when they were uncircumcised.

Besides the difference in sensitivity, there are few risks linked with circumcision. For example, African cultures perform this circumcision in young boys without anesthesia and sterile surgical supplies, which in many cases leads to infections, diseases and even death. Many boys end up with excessive removal of foreskin. This situation is even worse if we know that the consequences of this improper removal cannot be noticed while they are young. They will feel the effects when they start practicing sex. In this period they might feel painful erections and other erectile problems that are direct result of the improper circumcision carried out by non-medical staff.

It is good to know that circumcision also brings some benefits. There are many experts that claim that circumcision is directly linked with the lowering of risk of penile cancer. The possibility of occurrence of urinary tract infections is also reduced. As we have mentioned before glans of the circumcised penis is less sensitive which means that the stimulation must be more powerful which eventually leads to more powerful sex.

Circumcision is a matter of personal choice in many cultures and many experts advice staying away from circumcision. 

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Nаturаl rеmеdiеѕ fоr premature еjасulаtiоn

Premature ejaculation оссurѕ when a mаn ejaculates early during ѕеxuаl intercourse. On average a mаn should lаѕt fоr 5 tо 7 minutеѕ during ѕеx, but nоt mаnу mеn can lаѕt thiѕ lоng with ѕоmе men lasting fоr оnlу twо minutes. Thiѕ can hаvе a nеgаtivе impact on a relationship since one раrtnеr will bе lеft unsatisfied. Knоwing bеѕt cure fоr рrеmаturе еjасulаtiоn iѕ thе kеу tо gеtting rid оf this condition.

Mаѕturbаtiоn bеfоrе ѕеx iѕ соnѕidеrеd оnе of thе best cure fоr рrеmаturе еjасulаtiоn. Thе male should masturbate аt least оnе hоur bеfоrе sex in order to rеduсе ѕеnѕitivitу during ѕеx. Thiѕ is also a great way to rеduсе sexual арреtitе tо help thе man lаѕt longer during ѕеx.

Extеnd time fоr fоrерlау
Fоrерlау hаѕ bееn shown tо increase the time it tаkеѕ before a man саn ejaculate. Yоu ѕhоuld thеrеfоrе tаkе уоur timе to stimulate еасh other bеfоrе ѕеx.

Stop еjaculate
Men whо еjасulаtе еаrlу саn lеаrn ѕеlf соntrоl bу stopping every timе thеу nеаr еjасulаtiоn. Thе mаn саn rеmоvе hiѕ реniѕ frоm thе wоmаn аnd wаit until thе рrе-оrgаѕm fееlingѕ subside tо ѕtаrt аgаin. Thiѕ еxеrсiѕе should be rереаtеd several timеѕ until bоth раrtiеѕ аrе rеаdу for intense оrgаѕm. One will аlѕо nееd thе соореrаtiоn оf the оthеr partner ѕinсе ѕhе may not undеrѕtаnd whаt is gоing оn if уоu kеер ѕtоррing after еvеrу twо minutеѕ. You саn uѕе the resting реriоd tо cuddle аnd kiѕѕ to retain thе mood.

Squееzе thе реniѕ
Yоu саn top рrеmаturе ejaculation bу ѕquееzing thе реniѕ every timе уоu fееl likе еjасulаting. Gеt thе реniѕ оut and ѕquееzе it аt thе base fоr аррrоximаtеlу 30 ѕесоndѕ. Unсirсumсiѕеd mеn саn рull thе fоrеѕkin back and ѕquееzе thе gland until thе urgе tо ejaculate is оvеr. This iѕ going to kеер оff еjасulаtiоn аnd you can соntinuе until уоu аrе rеаdу tо release it. Yоu will need to rереаt thе еxеrсiѕе several timеѕ until уоu аnd уоur раrtnеr аrе rеаdу.

Think аbоut something еlѕе оthеr thаn ѕеx
Yоu can ѕtор рrеmаturе еjасulаtiоn bу thinking аbоut something nоt rеlаtеd tо ѕеx during ѕеx. Fоr inѕtаnсе, thinking аbоut a bаѕе bаll game оr dоing the lаundrу саn help уоu tо lаѕt long. Thе mоrе уоu саn diѕtrасt уоurѕеlf frоm ѕеxuаl thoughts, the more уоu саn increase уоur lasting power withоut losing уоur erection.

Change ѕеx position
Look for роѕitiоnѕ whiсh provide lеѕѕ stimulation during sex. Onе of these positions iѕ tо lеt the woman lie on thе top or the miѕѕiоnаrу ѕtуlе where the mаn is lуing оn tор of thе wоmаn. These positions givе thе mаn more control аnd hе саn соntrоl ѕрееd аnd penetration. Kеер changing роѕitiоnѕ аftеr every twо minutеѕ tо help you lаѕting longer in bed.

Herbs tо cure рrеmаturе еjасulаtiоn
Clоvе iѕ оnе of thе bеѕt cures for premature ejaculation. Yоu should drink сlоvе tеа twо timеѕ еvеrу day until уоur ѕуmрtоmѕ imрrоvе. Othеr hеrbѕ to сurе premature whiсh can be ѕuеd include whitе оniоnѕ, аѕраrаguѕ milk, passion flower аnd wild уаm.

Mеn suffering frоm premature еjасulаtiоn can have рrоblеmѕ in thеir relationships. Thе mаn саn feel unworthy аnd this is gоing lеаvе him depressed. Thiѕ соnditiоn iѕ curable thrоugh mеdiсаtiоnѕ ѕuсh аѕ antidepressants, реnilе соnѕtruсtiоn аnd сrеаmѕ. Hоwеvеr, hоmе rеmеdiеѕ ѕuсh are best сurе fоr premature еjасulаtiоn because thеу do nоt have ѕidе еffесtѕ.

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Keep Premature Ejaculation in Check and Stop the Embarrassment

Many of us men dream of becoming the exceptional lover who will make love to our lady all night long. Unfortunately; premature ejaculation often times pops up its ugly head and creeps upon us when we least expect it to.
Without doubt, premature ejaculation serves as one of the most embarrassing and most frustrating things that end up screwing up our sexual prowess, these effects are so drastic that they bruise our egos and we end up questioning our self-worth.
Now that is out, the question that lingers is….what exactly is premature ejaculation and how in the world are we able to suffer from it? This is question that not only lingers in my mind, but every other man.
Technically, premature ejaculation happens many times during the first minutes when we have sex. It actually strikes when we are all set and ready to go in, (Penetrate the vagina) after the first inward stroke, followed by the outward stroke and for some just after a couple of strokes we all shoot up the load.
When and if an orgasm strikes just after a couple of minutes, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you automatically suffer from premature ejaculation, it just means that the timing was not in any way right and its nothing to get alarmed about.
 Yet another logical explanation that would also lead to the definition of premature ejaculation could be the routinely climax way before you sexually fulfil your lady friend. For women your quick climax means that they will be unable to achieve an intense orgasm.

The Mistake We All Make

It’s rather unfortunate that many men tend to believe that premature ejaculations is something that is shameful. This belief has led many a man get humiliated due to their lack of stamina in the bedroom. This has led to most men avoiding any sexual contact with their lady friends.

Fortunately for all of us, things do not have to be this or any other way. As embarrassing as premature ejaculation is, it is also an event that can be reversed and an event that we can all get rid of once and for all!
Toughening the Pelvic Muscles in the pelvis region is one proven and continuously practised technique that is known to significantly increase staying power. Mental Muscle as it is often regarded as is a point which plays a major role in determining the length in time that someone will last.

Simpler exercises include combining the right diet, doing breathing exercises and physical exercises four to five days a week and performing foreplay are all perfect ways of ensuring that every sexual encounter is a great encounter! 

Monday, May 12, 2014

Reasons for Missed and Late Menstruation

There are many reasons why your menstrual cycle might be late or even missing but there are few of them are the most probable cause for that.
First and foremost, you might be pregnant. Of course, pregnancy is possible only when a woman had sex with a man without using any type of contraception. However, in some cases even if you have used protection it is possible that it fail to protect you. Pregnancy is possible only with a sexual intercourse, during which the man ejaculates his semen in the vagina, but it can also happen in cases when the man, just before ejaculation, pulls the penis out of the vagina. Anal sex, oral sex and all other types of sex can’t lead to pregnancy. In case you had sexual intercourse that can lead result in pregnancy and the menstrual cycle is late, there are two options for you. You can buy a pregnancy test or you can calculate the so-called fertile days. 

Calculating fertile days is not really the perfect choice for protection because they are not very reliable, but they can help you establish a framework about whether you were fertile during that period or not.
Women are usually most fertile between two menstrual cycles. Sometimes this state is visible thanks to the increased vaginal discharge. This fertile period is also called a period of ovulation.

In order to determine your fertile days you can also use so-called menstrual calendars. These calendars have many purposes – from calculating fertile days to observation of your body’s behavior. These calendars can help your gynecologist a lot because we often can’t remember when the last time we had a period or some other things related with our sexual health. Ovulation can be affected by alcohol, tobacco, drugs, stress, diseases and more. That’s why we can’t rely on calculating the fertile days.   

The link between the moon and menstrual cycles has been proved many times. The moon phase of fertility might occur at any time, no matter when was your last menstruation. The moon fertility period is calculated for each woman individually, based on the time of birth.

Menstruation can be late or missing for many other reasons. One of the major causes of this is of course – stress. Menstruation can fail because your body is trying to establish a new balance. That’s why teenage girls have so many irregular menstruations. Establishing a regular menstrual cycle can last for several years and in order to achieve that women should take care about their diet – eating too much or too little can affect the menstruation. Furthermore, excessive exercising can lead to body exhaustion and this kind of routine can confuse your menstrual cycle.

Irregular menstruation and its absence might be a short-term or long-term occurrence. In cases of long-term irregularities, the best option is to visit your gynecologist. If this is a short-term problem, try to find out what kind of changes in your life happened during that period.

Menstruation can be a great indicator about what is going on in the woman’s body.

Thursday, May 8, 2014

What is prostatitis and how to deal with it?

Prostatitis is a medical term used to describe a state in men who have problems with their prostate. Prostatitis is actually a generic name for symptoms caused by the inflammation of the prostate or they are similar to those symptoms. This means that in some cases the symptoms are similar but there is no actual inflammation. This is a common occurrence, especially in young men, that appears mostly due to two reasons. The first one is recurrent flow of urine into the prostate, especially during heavy physical activity and this state is also known as chemical inflammation. The second reason is bacterial infection.

Some of the known reasons for appearance of prostate illness include – lack of physical activity, sitting in the chair or in the car for a longer period, frequent unprotected sexual intercourses with different partners, increased number of various inflammations and using medications without doctor’s supervision. Because there are numerous reasons for prostatitis, experts have decided to divide this state into four types.

The first type is so-called acute bacterial prostatitis. As the name suggests this prostatitits is caused by bacteria. Some of the symptoms of acute bacterial prostatitis include – pain in the lower abdominal area, pressure in the perianal area, and interference in urination – frequent, painful and urination with burning sensation, painful ejaculation and increased prostate sensitivity. In some cases, people that are suffering from prostatitis experience increased body temperature and fever. The best way to treat acute bacterial prostatitis is to use antibiotics, antipyretics, analgesics and warm baths.

Chronic bacterial prostatitis can appear if the prostatitis sufferer doesn’t treat acute prostatisi properly. The patient has increased body temperature and feels tension and pressure in the perineum, lower back pain and disorders in the sexual life. So, if you have finished treating an acute bacterial prostatitis, it is always a good idea to visit your doctor and bring sperm and urine samples for examination. If there are signs of prostatitis you will have to take additional antibiotics. Patient may suffer erectile dysfunction if not treated properly.

Unlike previous two types, non-bacterial prostatitis doesn’t appear because of bacterial infection. It is very similar to the bacterial types but the cause cannot be detrmined. The pain that this type of prostatitis causes can last for several months. It can be detected by excluding all other possible sources, such as acute bacterial prostatitis for example. What makes this type different is that it usually appears in young men that have very active sexual life (usually with different partners) and have suffered from urethritis. Some experts believe that the main cause for non-bacterial prostatitis is the sexual intercourse or the contact to be more precise. Treatment is difficult and it lasts long, and it is generally performed by finding the right antibacterial agent.

Prostadynia is the last type of prostatitis. It is a medical condition in which the patient has all the symptoms and sign of prostatitis but the there is no evidence that it is an inflammation. In most cases it is not an inflammation and it is not treated with antibiotics.

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

Testicular Self Examination

Have you ever examined your testicles? If the answer is no or few years ago, it is time to perform a self examination. This self examination can be very helpful when it comes to testicular cancer detection or other medical conditions that might affect your testicles.

Although the number of people suffering from testicular cancer is not that high, according to some statistics this number is rising constantly every year. Expert have come to a conclusion that if you have suffered from incompletely lowered testicles (cryptorchidism) or an inguinal hernia, you have around 10%-20% higher chances of developing testicular cancer. Of course there are few other risk factors and their influence is still being studied. These factors include – premature puberty, family diseases, maternal smoking during pregnancy, age of the mother at birth, complications during birth and various types of radiation.  Testicular cancer can be easily spotted with an examination. At the beginning it comes in a form of induration or lump that can be felt during examination. However not every lump is a testicular cancer and that’s why you should visit your doctor to determine the real reason for those lumps. In addition, you can take note for some of the symptoms of testicular cancer. First of all, look for gradually or rapid movement of one of the testicles. Find out if there are any swellings (painful or painless) on any spot on the testicles. See if you have a feeling of heaviness or unusual sensitivity in one of the testicles. Another symptom of testicular cancer is increased pressure by the lymph nodes to the bladder although this symptom is common for kidney disease too.

When it comes to self examination, experts suggest that these examinations should be performed once a month and on the same if possible. The testicles must be relaxed so try to perform this self examination in a warm room and the best time do to it is after you’ve taken a shower or bath. Don’t examine the two testicles at one, check them one by one and use the other one for comparison. It is better to know the elements of your testicles like vessels, vas deferens and epididymis are. In this way you can notice all the changes easily.

In order to perform a proper self examination you should take one of the testicles in both hands so that the thumb and other fingers of both hands are flat in order to feel the testicles. Check each testicle separately and try to keep an order. First check the epididymis, after that vas deferens and in the end the vessels. Make sure you’ve checked both testicles in the same order. Look for any unusual lumps, swelling or indurances.

Even if you are suffering from testicular cancer, you should not be worried, because treatment of testicular cancer is one of the most successful and around 90% of the people are cured. In most cases surgery is required as well as chemotherapy. That’s why don’t forget to perform testicular self examination frequently. 

Friday, May 2, 2014

Few things you should know about vaginal dryness

If your vagina doesn’t get enough moisture during the sexual intercourse it is very likely that you will experience unpleasant pain and even damages inside the vagina. Dry vagina is not only bad for you but it is also bad for your partner because he might experience pain and damages on the penis. In some cases the reason for this dryness is the fast foreplay and longer foreplay seems like a logical solution. Your partner can also use his tongue or saliva in order to penetrate more easily. It is completely natural that you will have certain problems with dryness during the menstrual period, because for example the tampon itself dries the vagina. That’s why you shouldn’t worry about the dryness during this period. 

Lack of wetness in vagina doesn’t always mean that you are having low sex drive. Sometimes there are periods when you are simply not that wet down there and using various products can help you. The best natural lubricant is of course the saliva but if you are having bigger problems you can use some other lubricants. Having sex with a condom that is already lubricated is another option. However you should be careful with the penetration – the penetration should be slow no matter what you use. If the vagina gets dry during the sex ask your partner to pull the penis out and use saliva for moisturizing.

When a woman reaches menopause it is a completely different situation. In these cases we are talking about hormonal changes and according to some statistics more than 20% of women have troubles with vaginal dryness during this period. We are talking about serious physical changes in the genitals and the urinary tract as well. During this period the estrogen levels are getting lower and the vaginal walls produce fewer fluids. It is very important that the partner fully understands this change and be patient. The vaginal dryness doesn’t mean lack of libido and low sex drive. If you don’t understand this change you will probably create an additional emotional problem. The vagina during menopause can still get wet but it takes more time. That’s why you should extend the time of the foreplay and you will see that the vagina will have the necessary moisture after a while.

How exactly can you moisten your vagina? Experts suggest avoiding bath oils, scented soaps, sprays and wipes for washing the vagina, because they can easily irritate the vagina and cause even more problems. It is also important to avoid decongestants and antihistamine products that are known for their role in vaginal dryness. You should use gels based on water which can be used on and inside the vagina and on your partner’s penis too. They don’t have any side effects and they are easy to apply. Having regular sexual intercourses is another useful thing in your fight against dryness, because these intercourses keep the blood flow in the genital area. If none of these things works consult a doctor.

Thursday, May 1, 2014

Finding True Love

Is yours true love or lust? While there are those who establish relationships that last for a long time and possibly lead to marriage, there are those who establish relationships that do not last even months. Theirs are short-term relationships that do not have any basis. Simply put, there is true love and lust. Those whose relationships last establish their relationships on the basis of true love. On the other hand, those whose relationships do not last are only motivated by lust.

True love is like a lit dry oak wood. It takes time to catch the fire and burns slow with a steady flame. Furthermore, it burns for several hours. On the other hand, lust is like dry grass that catches fire in an instant. It burns hot very quickly before fading away just as fast as it caught fire. Although both dry grass and dry oak wood produce heat, dry grass produces intense heat, unlike dry oak that produces steady heat.
How do you ascertain whether yours is true love or lust? Both love and lust are fires. They evoke powerful feelings and emotions that can leave you confused. There are however ways through which you can tell whether yours is true love or simple lust.
  1. You should know that yours is lust in case you are in the habit of establishing relationships that start off in a great way but die soon tragically. A good pointer to this is when you establish three or four relationships in a year. Being in a true love relationship means keeping a relationship for long, which can be for a year or two.
  2. Although it is not clear why different people get attracted to different people, physical attraction is often given as the reason why. This however presents a serious challenge. Simply getting attracted to someone because of his/her physique is a clear sign of lust. Although true love has some element of physical attraction, there is that deep feeling of care and concern for another person. You should know that yours is lust in case you look at a person’s physique and harbour the thought of sexual intimacy instead of the other way round.
  3. You should be able to know that yours is lust in case you view sex as a pleasure activity and not for procreation. Although true love also has element of pleasure in sex, it is usually accompanied by feelings of deep love and emotional attachment to someone else.
  4. You should be able to know that yours is lust and not true love if such values as respect, loyalty, admiration, support and emotional fulfilment lack in your relationship. These are very important values that can only be found in true love. Being in true love naturally brings in the elements of respect, loyalty, admiration, support and emotional fulfilment when you think of your partner.

There is no doubt that it is extremely easy to enter into a relationship full of lust and find it very difficult in establishing a relationship where true love exists. Contrary to common belief, you do not look for true love in someone else you are interested in, true love starts with you.