Sex & you

Sex & you

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

What Makes Women Cry After Sex?

In the recent period many experts are focused on this phenomenon. What makes women cry after sex?

The opinion about the cause of this crying are divided. Some say that these are tears of joy because of the excellent sex intercourse while others believe that such outbursts of emotions are direct consequence of some deeper problems in the relationship or in the woman herself.

It is a well known fact that for some young women sex is not such a pleasant experience. In fact, many of them feel depressed after having sex. This is not a case of clinical depression – it is rather a moment of bad mood followed with sadness and large amount of tears.

Female reactions on sexual acts and orgasms are very different and they can be viewed in the wrong way. Some women simply erupt without any particular reason and go through various emotional phases like tears, laughter, intensive crying etc.

Many psychiatrists share the same opinion – women rarely cry because of a good sex. They cry mostly because they have some problems that are bothering them before and especially after the sex act is finished. Some experts suggest that there are three types of women that are crying after sex .

The first group of women is those who are suffering from anorgasmia. They simply cannot achieve intense orgasm or they have troubles achieving it. And when they experience such disappointment after all the emotional and physical efforts it is quite natural to expect tears and sadness.

The other group of women has some sort of remorse, emotional and instinctive part of their personality want to have sex with the partner because of all the emotions and passion but the rational part knows that a sexual intercourse like that is wrong. After the sex is finished the woman feels guilt and questions her decision.

Finally, the third group consists of women has frequent sexual intercourses and with every sexual intercourse they believe that they will keep their partner and build a more serious relationship. Once they are finished with the act they realize that they haven’t accomplished anything.

Although the reason for crying is sometimes obvious there are cases when both the women and her partner are wondering what the exact problem is. We are presenting three most common problems related to this occurrence.

First and foremost, this might be a case in situations where there is a problem in the relationship. Although sometimes people think that they are in a perfect relationship they often don’t talk about certain problems and leave them aside. In this cases sex can be a trigger for these emotions.

Fear of bonding is another reason why some women cry. Thinking about whether your partner will leave you or not or whether you are attractive or not can lead to crying after the sex is finished.

Finally, in some cases we can blame the hormones. During the sex act hormones are going crazy so if you can’t stop crying once the sex is over there is a good chance that you have some hormonal problems and you need to visit your doctor. 

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

How to Determine Whether Your Partner has a Healthy Penis?

Penises come in different sizes, shapes and skin color which makes a little bit difficult to determine whether your partner is healthy down there or not. However there are few indicators that can help you get an answer to this question. They are not very complicated so in some cases you can directly ask your partner about them.

First of all, women often notice that in some cases the penis of their partner is harder and sometimes softer during the sexual intercourse. It is good to know that there are different levels of “hardness” in each penis and these levels are not associated with the intensity of excitement. The penis’ hardness can vary even during the same sex session depending on the time and the activities you are performing in the bed. If you feel that in the past few weeks his penis is a little bit softer all the time that can be a result of numerous factors like medications, stress and level of fatigue. As long as there is good penetration and you are both satisfied you don’t have to worry about anything.

Many women are confused because of the fact that some men have smooth penis while some of them have a penis with numerous veins. They simply don’t know what is normal. The truth is that there isn’t any standard. The thickness of the skin determines the look of the penis. It is natural to see more veins on the penis of a man who has thinner skin. You will notice only few veins in men who have thicker skin. Sometimes this appearance is closely related to the level of excitement. The blood vessels of the penis help achieve an stronger erection and this is why they are more visible when a man is excited. 

Another thing that is confusing for women is the size of the testicles and whether they need to be identical or not. According to many experts the size of the testicles should be similar to the size of a walnut in a shell. If they are smaller this usually indicated lower testosterone level which usually means that later in his life that man can experience some fertility problems. Furthermore, testicles should have the same size although having one testicle that is positioned slightly lower than the other one is very common among men. This doesn’t mean that something is wrong with their testicles.  

In case you are wondering how many erections should a man have during one day the answer is simple – at least one. There is no exact number that can indicate that your partner is healthy. There are also cases when the penis gets hard without arousal. Very often men get erections even when they are not thinking about sex. The reason is increased blood flow. Most men have hard erection during the night when they are asleep and this doesn’t necessarily mean that they have wet dreams.

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

How to have sex with a new partner?

You have finally met someone who makes you feel happy and maybe you have already fallen in love. Your mutual attraction can be felt from miles and the sexual tension is rising. It is only a matter of time when you and your new partner will have your first sex. All these things sound nice but before you make your next move it is always a good idea to take few things into consideration.

First of all, you need to be very careful. It is a well known fact that when a relationship is fresh you have the feeling that your partner is ideal but you should know better than that. Having sex with someone that you don’t really know can be extremely dangerous. Many sexually transmitted diseases like genital herpes, syphilis, Chlamydia and HIV cannot be spotted because they don’t have any distinctive external symptoms. This is why it is really hard to tell if someone is infected with some of these diseases or not. Feel free to ask him when the last time he had a test for these diseases was. Even if he had a long serious relationship before you that doesn’t mean that his or her partner was faithful. If you want to be sure that he or she is completely healthy you should both take a test.

Once you know that you are both perfectly healthy you will certainly feel more relaxed and forget about the stress. Don’t be afraid about your sexual performance and don’t think about failures. Remember that the first sex is usually intended to get familiar with your partner and explore each other’s bodies. You can’t expect full sexual play so don’t push to hard in order to impress your partner.

What was driving your ex partner crazy in bed doesn’t mean that it will work with your new partner too. But don’t worry about that. Exploring and researching of new reactions to certain moves and things is very interesting, fun and it will surely improve your sex life. If you start feeling that you are under a lot of pressure it is best to postpone your first sex. There is a lot of time ahead when you can freely explore your bodies. It is better to make sure that both of you are relaxed and ready for your first sexual experience.

In the past men and women usually practiced the so-called missionary sex position but those days are long gone. Today couples practice dozens of different sex positions and on top of that thing like using sex toys or practicing anal and oral sex are nothing unusual.

If you are used to more simple sex, don’t be afraid of using sex toys that your partner may have in the drawer. There is a big chance that the sex toy was brought on purpose and that she or he was planning to use during the sexual intercourse with you. Don’t refuse to have anal sex, but if your partner feels uncomfortable you should first talk about that.  

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Chronic urinary tract infections and sex

Are you suffering from certain chronic urinary tract infections? Do these infections cause you problems in your sex life? Many bacteria like E coli for example can easily enter your body through the lower part of your urinary system in the urethra which is located very close to the genital area in both men and women. Furthermore, these bacteria can go through the upper part of the urethra (the tube that connects the bladder to the urinary meatus) and enter the bladder and in some cases they can even reach the kidneys. This can make the situation even more complicated.

Cystitis is another common problem that can appear in anyone. This infection is obtained after having sex with a completely new partner. Although this infection is present in men and women, young women are especially prone to developing this type of infection especially if they are at the beginning of their sex life.

The good news is that you can reduce the risk of urinary tract infections. In order to do that, you need to wash your hands before and after sex. Another good advice is to avoid touching the urogenital area after touching the anus. Groins and anus are areas where many bacteria that can cause infections dwell. It is good to know that is you use a diaphragm or spermicide as a method of contraception, the risk of getting infection of the urinary system is significantly higher. Since the symptoms of these infections can be easily spotted you should consult your doctor whenever you notice some of these symptoms. In many cases doctors prescribe low doses of antibiotics as a preventive measure. In this way the bacteria are eliminated without causing any problems to your metabolism and your body.

In general, women have much higher probability of getting a urinary tract infection after sex. Most of the researches in this field are mainly focused on younger people but recent studies have confirmed that women in postmenopausal period can get such infections too. Given the fact that the urinary system is so close to the genitals, sexually transmitted infections can be part of the problem too. Sexually transmitted infections like trichomoniasis and Chlamydia can cause urinary tract infections. That’s why you need to consult your doctor as fast as you can.

If you belong to the group of women who are suffering from frequent and recurrent urinary tract infections you should know that changing sex positions may help reduce the number of these infections. By changing sex position you may reduce the friction on the urethra and reduce the risk of recurrent infections.

Young men (under the age of 35) who are sexually active and avoid using condoms are prone to infections located in the epididymis (the tube that connects the vas deferens and the testicles).

Although urinary tract infections are very painful and not something uncommon they can be treated relatively easy. This is only the case when they are diagnosed early. When they are treated properly and promptly they cannot develop into something more serious.