Sex & you

Sex & you

Friday, August 3, 2018

Making That Vacation Sex Work

So you’ve worked round the clock trying to make ends meet to provide for your family and also go on that vacation you deserve. You’ve also noticed how difficult it is to keep a sexual routine with your partner because of how busy you can get. She hardly complains, because you guys have had discussions on vacation, and have made plans. It’s been a while you’ve been on vacation; it’s also been a while you’ve had a romantic getaway with your partner and you are wondering how to rekindle the lust between both of you while on vacation. Here are four ways to ensure you get enough of each other on that trip:

Location matters
What location have you picked for your vacation? Somewhere close to home or another country? How romantic is the setting of the location? Is it where people come for their honeymoon, or where people visit for sightseeing? If you are planning a vacation to spend romantic time with your partner, ensure that you pick the right location that will set things up. Remember this is not a family vacation where you have to consider the needs of your children. It’s something involving just both of you. Choose a location that will set you in the mood for sex, somewhere not too cold or hot, but cool weather that will make you guys want to cling on to each other for the rest of the trip. Ensure they don’t allow children there too.

Make a bucket list
What do you hope to achieve with your partner during this trip? Do you want to explore her body on a deeper level? Get to know her g-spot or erogenous zones? Try out crazy sex positions? 50 shades of gray motivated? Sex on the beach? Want sex full of toys? You can write out different things you wish to try out and get her to write hers too. Writing a bucket list and sharing with each other will build the momentum and excitement that will make you do a countdown to the big day.

What’s in the luggage?
Surely not some old undies and worn out shorts. It’s been a while you’ve had enough time to yourself, so why bring up the past. Please keep out the oldies and go shopping for some new sexy Victoria secret and puma briefs. Your babe can also add some wigs for different character roles depending on the level of sexual communication you both have. Sex toys, lubricants, contraceptives, massage oils, chocolate thongs, undies, etc. should be in that bag unless you plan on getting them when you arrive at your destination.

Build momentum
So you’ve finally gotten to your destination. Your room looks inviting, red rose petals at strategic places. Do you think it’s right to jump into sex right away? While there is nothing wrong with this, you can be sure your first vacation sex will be boring. Do something that will increase sex drive for each other, a warm bath, exercise, massage, skydiving, etc. You do not need to rush things; you are on vacation.

Monday, July 16, 2018

How To Make Her Your 'Love Slave'

The thought of having a submissive lover is probably at the top of every man's wish list. That's certainly the case for every single one of my friends and me.

And the interesting - and awesome - thing is that the grand majority of women want to submit. Most of them will never actually say it out loud, but they are ready and willing to submit to the man who can comfortably and competently take the lead.

But even when I had a good amount of sex experience under my belt, I still didn't know how to take the lead and dominate my sex partner.

The thought of holding her hair and pulling it back, or to tie her up and blindfold her was an extreme turn on for me. But I was simply afraid that she would not only stop me but that she would probably slap me across the face and never want to see me again.

Little did I know that literally 99% of women love having their hair pulled during sex... as long as you don't try to yank her hair out of her skull. The same thing goes for tying her up and blindfolding her.

No matter how reserved she may seem at first, there is an inner freak that is just begging to be unleashed as long as you are ready and able to handle it.
So, let's talk about that a bit...

If you want your woman to submit to you and become your personal "love slave," you have to do two things.

It may sound overly simple, but you can't let the simplicity of it fool you. You have to understand that these two steps are very powerful and can work with any woman as long as you're ready for it.

Step 1: Have a genuine sexual desire to satisfy her, and then do it.
I've said this before, I'll say it again, and probably again in the future: If you take the time and effort to make sure that she has an orgasm before you, she would be willing to do whatever you want her to.
Do you want to tie her up? Do you want to pull her hair? Spank her? Choke her?
The chances are that you can do all of those things as long as you ensure that she has her orgasm first. (And I'm talking about a real, hair-raising, toe-curling, and intense orgasm)
There is nothing more powerful than a sexually satisfied woman.

Step 2: "Tread Softly" and check for feedback
If you've never slept with your partner before, you probably don't want to bring out the whips and the chains just yet. If she's letting you spank her, it probably doesn't mean that she wants you to stick your finger in her butt.

Whatever you want to try, you have to "test" the idea first by doing a very light version of the idea, and then check for her reaction to see if you should continue or not.

For example, if you want to stick a vibrator in her butt ultimately, you have first to rub your finger across her anus while you're having sex to see how she reacts to it. If she squirms and says, "No!" then you know that you probably shouldn't continue.

But if she doesn't shut you down right away, then you can continue to stroke it. Then slowly and gently begin to slide your finger in only up to the first knuckle. Then you stop here and continue your vaginal stroke.

If she is enjoying it, you'll either hear her moan, or you'll feel lubrication coming from her anus. This can be a sign that you can push your finger deeper. But if you want to be even more careful, you can just ask her how she likes it.

This can apply to anything pulling her hair, tying her up, using toys, etc.
Just remember consensual sex is good sex.

Monday, July 2, 2018

Improve Your Sex Life With Exercise

Physical exercise, aside from being a great way to keep the body in its proper shape, it also helps to enhance neurologic function, improve cardiovascular activities, relieve stress, manage BMI, increase concentration and awareness, as well as having a tremendous impact on our sexual health.

Order than cutting the risk of health complications associated with obesity and being overweight, regular exercise makes you feel and look sexy, giving you confidence, and boosting your self-esteem by giving you a right overall image of yourself

Researchers have shown that physical exercise has similar and diverse health benefits on both male and female’s sexual life. Physical activities in both men and women tend to induce improved sexual desirability and sexual performance. Improvement in this sexual desirability and performance may, however, vary between the two sexes. With regular exercise, women’s bodies are essentially primed for sexual activities through increased sensitivity to touch, while men, who exercise regularly, experience better sexual performance and have a better orgasm.

A study in 2008 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine proved that short duration, high-intensity physical exercise, less than 30 minutes and with a targeted heart rate of 70 percent of maximum heart rate, in women, does substantially improve sexual arousal. Another 2007 study in the same journal, discovered a strong connection between enhanced perception of arousal and increased body awareness. We can make a conclusion from these two studies that physical exercise increases body's responsiveness in women through improves bodily sensations such as increased muscle tension and heightened heart rate.

In men, however, regular physical exercise has been shown to improve sex drive significantly. A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour in 1990 showed that men who participate in physical activity, one hour a day, 3 – 5 times a week, with targeted heart rate of 75 – 80 percent of maximum heart rate, have a significant improvement in sexual involvements, such as endurance level, adequate sexual functionality, frequency of Sexual activities and an overall improved sexual drive.

If the fact that you’ll have better health is not enough reason to do some exercise, perhaps you might consider the following benefits of regular exercise in your Sexual life.

·       Exercise makes you look sexier – People who exercise regularly will have an improved body image, and this improves sexual desirability.

·       Exercises can cut the risk of erectile dysfunction – Since males genital erection is associated with blood circulation, regular exercise can help reduce the risk of diseases affiliated with the circulatory system, including high blood pressure and blocked arteries.

·       Exercises aids the release of endorphins – The term “runner’s high” is used to describe the feeling of pleasure and contempt during exercise, this feeling is usually triggered by the release of endorphins. People who exercise regularly often have a better sex life because the more the endorphins are released, the more the sexual arousal.

·       Exercise improve sexual performance in older individuals – Older people who exercise regularly tend to experience more or less the same sexual pleasure as with much younger people. Exercise can help optimize sexual performance in ageing people and cut the risk of sexual ageing.

Thursday, June 21, 2018

How to turn a guy on

Many ladies fail at the dating game. This might be due to several reasons. Some are too shy to accost a guy at a club, for example, others are too proud and give off an air of superiority, which instantly turns of most guys. Improve your sexual life may lead to better sexual health for both of you and your sex partner. There are women who hold themselves way more intelligent than a man, and as such, come off as all-knowing and geeky, which also most guys don`t like.

Guys, like ladies, are complicated beings and have their need and sexual desires, just like ladies do. Although it might appear easy to hook up with a dude at the local bar, who drank all night and does not know his name anymore, turning on a sober and normal man, is quite complicated. Here are some fundamental tips and skills that every woman should understand if they simply want to turn on their man.

1) Put on An Erotic Apparel
The first thing men see's about a woman is the way she dresses. Nowadays, the more skin a woman shows, the better. Mini skirts and sexy stockings with high heels will make any man swoon over you. Also, skin-tight dresses with just enough cleavage to show off your assets is also the way to go. A woman should, without uncertainty, accentuate her natural curves, mostly around her hips and back, because that part is what most men will check out first when seeing a lady.

2) Walk Sexy
This aspect is pretty easy for most women, but there are some who have to learn it from scratch. Walking like a man will not turn on any guy who sees you. When she wears high heels, the natural swaying of the hips when she walks should come by heart, but every woman should master how to walk sexy, even if she is wearing Converse footwear. There exist few things as charming, as seeing a sexy lady walking the right, sexy way, just winking at her assets, with every step she makes. It is just mesmerizing, and will inevitably turn all guys on.

3) Smell Good
Smell is a very significant part in turning on both sexes. A sweaty, stinking mechanic or construction worker, will probably be as prosperous in hooking up with a woman, as a swine would be. And that is true for ladies as well. Always smell pleasant when dating, or even when meeting your husband or boyfriend. A woman smelling of sweet, flowery fragrance is incredibly sexy for a man. Most of the question of how to turn a man on can be answered by simply smelling good. Always use fragrance when going on a date, or even at home. Love goes through the nostrils as well.

4) Be Soft
Every woman should be as soft as silk. Use lotions, shower gels which naturally make your skin soft and humid. And most importantly, always shave. Nothing is as offensive for a man, then a hairy woman. That was sexy 2,000 years ago, but not in the 21st century. On the other hand, there is nothing as sexy for a man, as silky soft, creamy skin, wherever he might touch you.

5) The Way You Present Yourself
Every woman should show off her femininity to a man. But also, not be needy and extremely possessive. The perfect combination is between a damsel in distress and a woman that can hold her ground, without becoming domineering. Men want to protect their women, and it is an old instinct that all man has. If you let him protect you, it will turn him on, because he will feel like a star. But also, if you make him understand that you are not just a pushover, that is very hot for a guy as well. It is all about balancing these two personalities.

6) Playing The Game 
This last part is essential. Always play the game with a guy. Tease him, feel him just at the right spots, and then back off. Leave him with something to look forward to for the night. Make funny jokes about him, and admit his games as well, without taking them personally. Cuddle and kiss him ever so slightly, but never give him all. Men were hunters in ancient times, and that remains true to this day. They need a challenge and something to hunt, so be the prey. It is a definite turn on for most men, to have to go out of their way to get a woman. These stimulation will boost sexual desire and may be more powerful than any sex pill you can find.

Tuesday, June 12, 2018

Oral Sex Techniques - Give Her Orgasm

How often do you go down on your partner before intercourse? And intercourse aside, how often do you engage in oral sex just for the sake of. Oral sex?

If the numbers are low, I have to say: You and are your partner are missing out. While it can be near-impossible to resist diving into sexy time penis-first, an intense session of cunnilingus can add something to your intimate life that neither of you is getting from the same old in-and-out.
For one thing, giving her oral sex can be a great form of foreplay. Your partner may not have mentioned this to you, but women typically are not ready for intercourse after just one arm caress and a breast grope. They often prefer a warming-up period to become physically and psychologically aroused, which, in turn, makes it easier for them to experience pain-free sex and, perhaps, even reach orgasm(s).

When you first start having sex with a woman, it can be tough to give her her first orgasm. Knowing oral sex techniques is one of the easiest ways to start her down the orgasmic path. Oral sex has many benefits over other kinds of foreplay because it focuses a lot on stimulation the clitoris. You also have a lot of control, being able to give her orgasm by making small changes to your position. It is so good for women that for some they can't orgasm without it.

Oral sex requires a lot of techniques. While you can just go down on her and move your tongue around, having good oral sex techniques makes a big difference. To give her the best orgasms she has ever had, it becomes important to learn to use your tongue effectively.

Oral Orgasms, How to Use Your Tongue Effectively
Many guys make a mistake, thinking that oral sex only has one type. In fact, there are a lot of variations that are possible that create infinite subtle differences that she will appreciate. One of the most important is knowing the difference between using the flat and tip of your tongue.

As a general rule:
* The tip of your tongue is a lot more effective during the foreplay stage. A sexy idea that women love is to use just the very tip and trace the outline of her underwear. This builds up a lot of tension, especially if you leave her underwear on for a long time as a hot tease.

* When you take off her clothes, use the tip of your tongue to flick across her clitoris and occasionally her perineum. This mixture of two erogenous zones will give her a lot of pleasure.
Oral Sex Tongue Techniques: The Flat of the Tongue and Stroking Her Clitoris
Most women need a lot more stimulation to achieve orgasm. Therefore it is better to use as much of your tongue as possible as she comes to orgasm. Reach your tongue as far out of your mouth as possible and rest it against your chin. As your tongue is fully extended, it can be difficult to make many motions with it. Therefore your head becomes a lot more important, move your head up-and-down and side-to-side, mixing these movements with different speeds and tempos to find the one that is best for your partner.

The tongue is one of the most important things to master if you want to consistently give her orgasms. Experiment with these sexy tips today. Once you can use your tongue effectively a world of orgasmic pleasure and amazing sex awaits both of you.

Friday, June 1, 2018

How to Be a Sexual King in Bed

If you truly want your girl to shout out your name in the midst of multiple orgasms, then you need moves that will please your girl and enable you to have fun too.

There are some moves that will truly enable you to turn into a sexual king in bed even as your girl turns into a shrieking queen begging for a sexual encore.

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You should realize that you need to be in control when you are having sex with your girl. This does not mean that you slap your girl around, although some fantasies do involve a bit of slapping, in turn, means that you act with passion and confidence. Do not be a wimp in bed but understand that girls like confident guys that know what moves to make to make a girl co crazy with desire.

Instead of simply focusing on your sexual pleasure, you should first concentrate on getting your girl all heated up with sexual desire. Start out by whispering naughty things in her ear. This will make her shiver in anticipation as you describe each sexual act that you plan to confer upon her.

Passionate foreplay techniques will surely be applauded by your girl in the form of moans and grunts of pleasure. Remember that you have many tools other than your penis to please your girl. You can kiss your girl on her lips, abdomen, breasts and thighs and also use your lips and tongue to stimulating her clitoris seductively. This move, when combined with a few fingers, is sure to result in at least a couple of intense orgasm from your girl.

While your girl would by now be ready to accept you as her king, you will still need to lay claim to the throne by penetrating her. Make sure that she is ready for you and also use sex positions that enable you to stimulate her g-spot by adjusting the angle of your penis. If your foreplay techniques have done their job well, then the penetration will take her to the seventh heaven of pleasure, and you will both achieve a royal orgasm together.

If you both have reached your orgasm and planned to continue lovemaking, stay in bed. To revive your energy levels, hug, cuddle, kiss and talk. Remember, lovemaking is not just a physical act, and it requires a level of emotional bonding too. Once you’ve reached climax don’t just turn your back on her or flip onto your back; look deep into her eyes and reassure her about how attracted you are to her and how much you cherish your time with her. Do this and you won't need to work too hard to stimulate her for a continued session of lovemaking.

Saturday, May 19, 2018

How to prevent premature ejaculation

Despite the fact that most men really brag about their sexual expertise – many of them hide the fact that they have been suffering from premature ejaculation. Now, this isn’t a condition that can be pinpointed with certitude. Most health professionals agree that an ejaculation can be considered as premature is the person ejaculates within one minute of the beginning of the sexual intercourse.

This is not a devastating sexual disease that may ruin your life. But it may ruin your enjoyment of your sex life – not to mention the enjoyment of your partner. It can make you insecure and doubtful of your sexual prowess. So, are there some ways in which you can prolong your time in the sack without ejaculating prematurely?

Well, the truth is that there isn’t any hard science that supports the notion that you will be able to extend your ejaculation time. But still, many men report that they have had success with the use of certain methods.

The first method that we recommend you use is the Kegel exercise. This exercise works the pubococcygeus muscle that’s to be found along the pelvic floor. You do it by squeezing it as hard as you can and then relaxing it. You do this several times per day. It will enable you to have a much bigger degree of control over your ejaculations. Try it out and see if it works for you.

Edging is another thing that you could do. You do this when masturbating. All you need to do is to get aroused to the furthermost degree before reaching a climax. Then stop masturbating and clear your head for a while. Then continue to masturbate and try to reach the next climax – but again stop before you reach it. If you do this over and over again you will be able to train yourself to experience the climax much later than you usually did.

If you’re having sex and you sense that you’re near to your climax, then you may pull out your penis and squeeze its head tight. This will diminish your need for finishing and you will be able to get back to business. Many men report that this is a great tactic that they have used during intercourse with a high degree of success when it comes to prevent premature ejaculation of any kind.

That being said, practice is one of the most powerful ways in which you can prolong your premature ejaculation. It’s normal to feel very excited during the first few sexual sessions with a new sex partner. But after a while, you will get into a routine and you won’t have the sex drives to burst out so easily.

Either way, we hope that some of these exercises and moves will help you out in controlling your premature ejaculation. We hope that your sexual life will improve dramatically as a result and that your partner will be able to enjoy your sexual endurance a lot more than ever before.

Sunday, April 22, 2018

Having Sex for the First Time for Men

Ever since the moment teenagers enter their adolescence – ideas start to shape up about having sexual intercourse. In fact, having sex is one of the most important elements of our DNA code because it enables us to continue our lineage as human beings. So, if you’re a person that’s about to have sex for the first time, then you may have some questions about it.

First of all, we must mention the fact that it’s completely okay for you to be nervous while you’re at it and in the moments leading to it. You’d be surprised at just how many men have been there before you and have felt just as afraid.

The reason as to why you may be afraid though may be because of the fact that you view sex as a performance art. You must not falter – you must be the virile alpha-male like the men you see in porn. You must rock the girl’s brains out – anything less than that and you would be deemed unmanly by her and by society as a whole – and worst of all, by yourself.

Our advice to you is to stop taking things so seriously. Perhaps it’s indeed the case that porn has instilled a picture in your mind of sex as a very straight-forward process where everyone knows their right sex position and what to do at any particular moment. But you need to know that porn is not reality in some part. You may come to awkward moments and positions while having sex and this is a normal part of the sex experiences.

And perhaps it will indeed be the case that you will fumble confusedly during your first sexual experience. The worst thing to do here is to cling to your (false) image that you will be a God in bed with a woman. Setting expectations this high may have the adverse effect of you being too frightened to do anything.

Likewise, don’t overthink things. Sex should be spontaneous. It’s okay to have a general outline of the positions that you would like to try out, but the worst thing that you could do is plan every possible detail of the experience. Don’t try to be too logical about sex. And don’t ask too many question. There’s not much more that can kill the entire atmosphere by asking questions such as “Can I put it there?” or “Can I touch you here, please?”.

You need to take your role as a man (unless you have some other system for the distribution of power, but that’s for another article) and be dominant in bed. Girls like that. Fall back on your primitive male mechanism and you will do just fine. And even if you stumble while you’re at it – it’s not the end of the world. The thing to remember here is that practice makes perfect. With time, you will be able to learn various details that will undoubtedly improve sexual performance in bed.

Wednesday, March 7, 2018

Bent Penis: The Best Sex Positions

The functionality of the penis is a big deal to most guys, which is one reason why possessing a bent penis can be a source of legitimate concern for many men. This can be especially true when it comes to how a bent penis may potentially alter the mechanics involved in intercourse. While practicing proper penis care is always advised to help with many common matters, in this instance an exploration of appropriate sex positions may prove especially helpful for sexual relationship.

How bent?
It's important to realize that some curvature of the penis is normal. True, there are some men who possess a member which is totally straight when erect; however, it also is quite common for there to be some leaning to the left or right, or up or down. So curvature itself is not a problem; an issue arises only when the curvature presents to a degree that can potentially impede the penis' proper placement during sexual activity.

When the bend is potentially sexual problem, it may mean that adjustments need to be made to find the best sex positions. The following are some of the sex positions which may be more accommodating to a bent penis.

1) Sideways missionary. This position often works when a man's penis curves to the side (either left or right). It's a "mixed use" position, with the woman lying on her side, knees bent and the man lying atop her in the traditional missionary position. (The side that the woman lies on will depend on which way the penis curves). By essentially creating a situation in which the participants are at a 90 degree angle, this position helps to compensate for the bend to the side of the manhood.

2) Doggy style. If the bent penis curves in a downward slope, rear-entry positions tend to be ideal. Again, this allows the curvature of the penis to more naturally follow the vaginal lay. It also allows the male greater freedom to re-position himself - in some cases, literally keeping him on his toes - to change the angle of thrust as needed.

3) Sitting straddle. For men with an upward curvature, a woman-on-top position can be very helpful. One of the best involves the male sitting, possibly leaning back a bit and bracing himself with his hands or elbows. The woman straddles the male and lowers herself onto the penis, using her hands to guide the member as needed. This position can also be beneficial for penises that curve downward. With a downward-plunging member, the woman again sits atop the man, but faces away from him.

4) Standing straddle. As the name implies, this is similar to the sitting straddle - except the man is standing rather than sitting. It's another position that works best for an upward-curved penis, although some limber women have found that they can better accommodate a left- or right-leaning penis in this position as well.

Finding the right fit
Most men with a bent penis find the sex positions that work best for them with only a little experimenting. Sometimes, however, the penis can become more bent over time, often a result of rough sex, in which aggressive action causes small traumas which create scar tissue when they heal. Sometimes this tissue causes the penis to bend.

While finding good sex positions for a bent penis is an excellent idea, so is working to prevent scar tissue from adding to the degree of curvature. In addition to avoiding too-rough sex, it pays to apply a superior penis health

Friday, February 16, 2018

Best ways to improve your sex appeal

Sex is one of the most pleasurable activities in life. So, it makes perfect sense that we would try our best to maximize our sex appeal. And since this is a subject of extreme importance for most people, it means that there will always be some shady business people that would try to sell sex pill to you, masquerading in the form of sound advice. But the best things to do if you wish to increase your sex appeal are pretty basic, and common sense. Read below in order to find them out.

The first thing that we would say to you to do, regardless if you’re a man or a woman, if your goal is to be sexier, is to do some exercise. Both men and women find a fit body of the opposite case (in some cases of the same sex) very attractive. Of course, there are some people that are not to be pin holed in this category – and they prefer plump, and sometimes outright fat people, when it comes to sexual attractiveness. This goes to show that you can’t please everybody. But most people would say that physical fitness is sexually attractive. It will not only increase muscle size and tone, but it will also make you healthier and improve your sexual stamina – your skin, hair, and nails will start to shine with health, and you will have a spark of vitality in your eyes – which is always attractive. Muscle may help to increase level of testosterone.

The next thing is to do is to implement some fashion advice in your life. Most people think that this is a very difficult thing to do. On top of this, most people have the wrong idea about what it means to dress in a sexually attractive way. We recommend you to buy a book or two on the subject and to read them out. Also, you can ask some people that are more knowledgeable on the subject at hand – and you can even just open your eyes and see what sexually attractive people wear, and then try to implement that particular clothing to your own body and style.

One of the most important ways in which you can increase your sex appeal is not easily explained. It’s through being confident. The fact that this is not easy to explain is what enables sneaky salesman to sell courses on “how to become a sexual powerhouse by increasing your confidence in three easy steps for only $99.95”. We’d suggest that you keep away from these courses. Being confident is something that can only come from within you. It means that you’re leading a life of integrity where you are courageous enough to always respect yourself and the principles by which you stand. This will show through your demeanor in many ways, and one of the effects will be that you will be more sexually attractive.

And in the end, there is a part of sexual attractiveness that is simply genetic. There is no way to change this, so you’ll have to work with what you’re given. But if you implement some of the advice from above, you will find out that people’s heads will start to turn towards you, and that your sexual attractiveness has increased.