The
thought of having a submissive lover is probably at the top of every man's wish
list. That's certainly the case for every single one of my friends and me.
And
the interesting - and awesome - thing is that the grand majority of women want
to submit. Most of them will never actually say it out loud, but they are ready
and willing to submit to the man who can comfortably and competently take the
lead.
But
even when I had a good amount of sex experience under my belt, I still didn't know
how to take the lead and dominate my sex partner.
The
thought of holding her hair and pulling it back, or to tie her up and blindfold
her was an extreme turn on for me. But I was simply afraid that she would not
only stop me but that she would probably slap me across the face and never want
to see me again.
Little
did I know that literally 99% of women love having their hair pulled during
sex... as long as you don't try to yank her hair out of her skull. The same
thing goes for tying her up and blindfolding her.
No
matter how reserved she may seem at first, there is an inner freak that is just
begging to be unleashed as long as you are ready and able to handle it.
So,
let's talk about that a bit...
If
you want your woman to submit to you and become your personal "love
slave," you have to do two things.
It
may sound overly simple, but you can't let the simplicity of it fool you. You
have to understand that these two steps are very powerful and can work with any
woman as long as you're ready for it.
Step 1: Have a genuine sexual desire to satisfy
her, and then do it.
I've
said this before, I'll say it again, and probably again in the future: If you
take the time and effort to make sure that she has an orgasm before you, she
would be willing to do whatever you want her to.
Do
you want to tie her up? Do you want to pull her hair? Spank her? Choke her?
The
chances are that you can do all of those things as long as you ensure that she
has her orgasm first. (And I'm talking about a real, hair-raising, toe-curling,
and intense orgasm)
There
is nothing more powerful than a sexually satisfied woman.
Step 2: "Tread Softly" and check
for feedback
If
you've never slept with your partner before, you probably don't want to bring
out the whips and the chains just yet. If she's letting you spank her, it
probably doesn't mean that she wants you to stick your finger in her butt.
Whatever
you want to try, you have to "test" the idea first by doing a very
light version of the idea, and then check for her reaction to see if you should
continue or not.
For
example, if you want to stick a vibrator in her butt ultimately, you have first
to rub your finger across her anus while you're having sex to see how she
reacts to it. If she squirms and says, "No!" then you know that you
probably shouldn't continue.
But
if she doesn't shut you down right away, then you can continue to stroke it.
Then slowly and gently begin to slide your finger in only up to the first
knuckle. Then you stop here and continue your vaginal stroke.
If
she is enjoying it, you'll either hear her moan, or you'll feel lubrication
coming from her anus. This can be a sign that you can push your finger deeper.
But if you want to be even more careful, you can just ask her how she likes it.
This
can apply to anything pulling her hair, tying her up, using toys, etc.
Just
remember consensual sex is good sex.
