Sex & you

Sex & you

Saturday, July 19, 2014

Why having sex only to reach orgasm is wrong?

Many women cannot reach orgasm because they are focused on reaching it, which means that they look at sex only as a tool to reach orgasm.

You must learn how to reach orgasm and that’s a well known fact. Another well known fact is that many women are having big problems when it comes to achieving orgasm. This is why in this article we will discuss the reasons behind that. It is important to understand that some women need more stimulation to achieve intense orgasm while others need shorter time. Some of them can reach it only through oral pleasuring; others through penetration while some of them only when they are masturbating. The problem can occur if they are having sex only because of orgasms and wait for it. In other words, they don’t enjoy sex; they only consider it to be a warm up for their orgasm. This is why they are usually in a hurry and they are impatient, they start to ask themselves what is wrong and why they can’t reach orgasm faster.

If you have the necessary time, try to go slow. Why do you need to be in a hurry during sex? Take a long arousing foreplay, warm up to the maximum and then enjoy the main part of sex. Don’t focus on time. If the sex lasts for one hour let it be. Because as long as you look at the time you will make it last longer. If you enter the sex act without the burden of time or focus on orgasm, you will enjoy it more and it will certainly last shorter. But why would you want your sex to last shorter when you can enjoy it longer? Sex is a pure form of pleasure and this is why you need to enjoy it till the end and even more. Have sex without watching the clock and without thinking about the orgasm. Even if you feel like you are getting near it, slow down. If we are talking about certain sex position that is comfortable for you, try to stay in it and don’t change it. If you enjoy cunilingus, show your partner that you really like sexual enhancement.

A big problem in women who can’t reach orgasm is the fear of repeated failure. These women very often think that it is impossible for them to reach orgasm and they stop trying. That’s a huge mistake because that is simply not true. Don’t give up after trying something new for the first time. After all how many people can say that their first sex experience was comfortable? If you didn’t find oral sex or certain sex position satisfying why not try again? Don’t give up so easily because the reason for dissatisfaction may be located somewhere else. Is penis enlargement going to help?

In some cases women are unable to achieve orgasms because they are too embarrassed to tell their partner what turns them on. This women can help themselves if they talk openly with their partners use their hands to show their partners what makes them feel pleasant.