If the lack of sex is on a level that starts to make you
worried, maybe it’s time to find out what the core of this problem is. Of
course, there is more than one reason for this unpleasant situation, so take
your time do a research and maybe you will be able to solve your problem
without asking for help.
One of the most common causes for lack of sex is stress. Because
of the fast paced and fulfilled everyday life many couples just don’t have
enough energy for intimate moments at the end of the day. Some couples find
themselves living as roommates after a while. They only share responsibilities
together (like bills and some tasks around the home) while the sex and the
intimacy are completely gone. If stress is the reason for lack of sex in your
relationship, it’s time for you and your partner to reorganize your time. If
you in a middle of some really busy period try to schedule at least one evening
that will be reserved just for the two of you.
Many people take their partners for granted and this is
exactly why they have infrequent sexual intercourses. This feeling is usually
developed after a period in which sex life became boring, lazy, full of
obstacles and bad experiences. This is the moment when you both need to
remember that sexual pleasures are one of the basic needs of human beings and
that these pleasures can be fulfilled in the easiest and in the best way with
the person we love and the person who completely understands our needs. This is
of course our partner and not some stranger.
Lack of sexual desire is another reason that leads to lack
of sex. This situation is usually linked with couples that have long
relationship behind them. It is important to understand that this lack of
interest is not because some of the partners have changed his appearance
(gaining weight for example) but because people start to forget some small
details like applying perfume, shaving, depilation, sexy underwear and some
other things that were used in the past and that surely increased the sexual desire. This is a process of continual re-conquering of the heart of your loved
one so don’t forget that.
In many cases, the moments spend in bed transform from love
to routine. This is not something unusual but if one of the partners notices
that it’s better to start conversation so both of them can find a solution.
Keeping these things in you won’t help anyone. There is nothing unusual to talk
about your sexual desires with your partner so don’t be afraid or embarrassed
to start a conversation like that.
Frequent quarrels between partners usually cause decreased
sexual activity but they can lead to wild sex too. Quarrels that are solved and
both partners admit their mistakes lead to great sex. If the quarrels are not
solved and they happen very often the partners should seek help from
professional therapists.
