Is yours true love or lust? While there
are those who establish relationships that last for a long time and possibly
lead to marriage, there are those who establish relationships that do not last
even months. Theirs are short-term relationships that do not have any basis.
Simply put, there is true love and lust. Those whose relationships last
establish their relationships on the basis of true love. On the other hand,
those whose relationships do not last are only motivated by lust.
True love is like a lit dry oak wood. It
takes time to catch the fire and burns slow with a steady flame. Furthermore,
it burns for several hours. On the other hand, lust is like dry grass that
catches fire in an instant. It burns hot very quickly before fading away just
as fast as it caught fire. Although both dry grass and dry oak wood produce
heat, dry grass produces intense heat, unlike dry oak that produces steady
heat.
How do you ascertain whether yours is
true love or lust? Both love and lust are fires. They evoke powerful feelings
and emotions that can leave you confused. There are however ways through which
you can tell whether yours is true love or simple lust.
- You
should know that yours is lust in case you are in the habit of
establishing relationships that start off in a great way but die soon
tragically. A good pointer to this is when you establish three or four
relationships in a year. Being in a true love relationship means keeping a
relationship for long, which can be for a year or two.
- Although
it is not clear why different people get attracted to different people,
physical attraction is often given as the reason why. This however
presents a serious challenge. Simply getting attracted to someone because
of his/her physique is a clear sign of lust. Although true love has some
element of physical attraction, there is that deep feeling of care and
concern for another person. You should know that yours is lust in case you
look at a person’s physique and harbour the thought of sexual intimacy
instead of the other way round.
- You
should be able to know that yours is lust in case you view sex as a
pleasure activity and not for procreation. Although true love also has
element of pleasure in sex, it is usually accompanied by feelings of deep
love and emotional attachment to someone else.
- You
should be able to know that yours is lust and not true love if such values
as respect, loyalty, admiration, support and emotional fulfilment lack in
your relationship. These are very important values that can only be found
in true love. Being in true love naturally brings in the elements of
respect, loyalty, admiration, support and emotional fulfilment when you
think of your partner.
There is no doubt that it is extremely
easy to enter into a relationship full of lust and find it very difficult in
establishing a relationship where true love exists. Contrary to common belief,
you do not look for true love in someone else you are interested in, true love
starts with you.
