Sexual Performance Anxiety

Men always have some pressure of sexual performance, the mindset and thinking that is in the society makes them believe that they should have thoughts like this. Examples are as follow:


-can always get an erection.
-should initiate sex.
-always want sex.
-should be in control.
-give women mind-blowing orgasms.
-should have a big penis, and if they don’t, they are inadequate.
-should know what to do in the bedroom.
-should succeed.
-should hide any feelings of inadequacy or vulnerability

All these believes makes men so worried and always thinking different ways to improve sex life and sometimes they worry too much that it affect their sexual performance. They need to know that sex itself is an activity that involve 2 parties and it depends on both parties to have a good sex life. If you are worry about things like this on the bed, how are you going to enjoy sex? Like what we have discuss before, sex depend on 2 person, it require communication, different people have different preference, you can't bring all your previous experience to expect it works perfectly in current relationships. Communicate and learn is a process.


-Ask your partner to caress you, and say how you would like to be touched.
-Consciously breathe during sex.
-Say yes when you want to.
-Say no when you want to.
-Have sex only when you want it.
-Self-pleasure (masturbate) slowly.
-Fantasize when you self-pleasure.
-Touch yourself all over, and notice where it feels good.
-Talk about sex with your partner.
-Have a sexual experience with your partner without having intercourse.
-Touch your partner’s body for your own pleasure.
-Take care of your body.

There are some creative ways for you to improve sex life with your partners here. Yes, masturbate is good sometimes as it helps you to learn more about yourself, it's a way to learn about yourself. There is no shy to masturbate. Know about your body, know where is your sensitive area, you can let your partner know about it and they will know how to pleasure and satisfy you. Foreplay is a very good way to learn about your partner's body, and we have mention many time that girls do enjoy a lot during foreplay. Most of them enjoy it more than sex itself. Learn about their body and you can make them orgasm in no time and sure they will give you a very good response.

Men's G Spot

There are some of the men sensitive area that are unknown, these area may not be as sensitive those main area like nipple or penis but these areas may bring you some surprise that even the men themselves have no idea that it can turn them on. All of you know that head massage is comfortable but it can turn men on? Not directly, but the feel of comfort can ease the pressure, the fingers that run on his head may stimulate it. Kiss is always a good way to start sex as lips are sensitive. This time try to lick it around his lips, these are sensitive area that can make him tingle and turn him on. Neck is the sensitive area for women, but these are the same for men as well, massage, kissing, licking his neck may turn him on fast, this is one of the best area for you to make him ask for sex. There are some sensitive area on the back, it will take you some time to find the g spot. Use your tongue or finger to run around see how he feel about it. I guess girls do know that the inner thigh of guys is sensitive, but do you have any idea that knee is also one of the sensitive are that can make him go wild? If you go all the way down, you will reach his feet. You guys may have seen it in porn, if you don't wanna lick it, a rub or sensual touch is going to make him horny.