First
of all you should understand what happens to your body at the time of
ejaculation. The male orgasm consists of two stages: the first stage begins in
the prostate gland which surrounds the urethra and is positioned in a circle
above the layout of the penis. The prostate gland shrinks and releases fluids
together with seminal vesicle contents into the urethra. The second stage
occurs when the pelvic muscle contract tightly around the perineum, forcing
fluid out with a considerable pressure. Men should be aware that it is possible
to ejaculate without having an intense orgasm and vice versa (dry orgasm); orgasm is
something mental and ejaculation is something physical.
Treatment
The
good news is that this problem is highly treatable, if a man is willing to ask
for help by investing the time and effort required. The first step to eliminate premature ejaculation is to become more familiar with it. Be comfortable with
your body, notice what feelings and sensitivities that lead to orgasm. You
should learn and be able to predict when the orgasm will occur. This will
prevent the surprise of having an orgasm without counting. This will help to
understand what is needed to avoid reaching that point, where there is no
possible return.
Breathe
Many
people are not aware but proper breathing helps develop control over ejaculation and give you a harder erection. This is because by doing some deep breaths, it will help you relax
and calm the sexual tension that leads to premature ejaculation. Practice deep
inhalations and exhalations and relax the whole body.
Communication
Communication
is another of the essential keys to be considered to lasting longer in bed. Let
your partner know when you are about to ejaculate and what you can or cannot
stand. This involves verbalization therefore non-verbal acts are often misinterpreted.
Words such as, “Hold” or “More” are obvious choices; short, meaningful words
are also acceptable.
Anxiety
Another
cause of premature ejaculation is anxiety, fear or discomfort with your
partner. Premature ejaculation is less likely to happen when couples know each
other well and feel comfortable with each other. And, more so if both are in a
relaxed state and have no problems with contraception.
Many
men in the second intercourse session can last longer than in the first. So
perhaps, this practice can be incorporated into your sexual ritual. If the
first time is short, continue to excite your partner with some oral sex or
manual stimulation, keeping the excitement alive until you are ready for a
second time.
Activ Homme Cream
Cream that stop premature ejaculation which reduce the sensitivity on the penis felt by men during intercourse are
an option to circumvent this problem since they allow intercourse last longer.
This gel is applied to the tip of the penis just before starting intercourse.
The only problem is that some men find it less stimulating sexual act as the
physical sensations are diminished. And Attention: This gel can also cause
allergic reactions in men, if applied more than recommended.
Condoms
Condoms
also reduce the sensitivity of the stimulation during sexual intercourse. Many
men feel that condoms allow them to a prolonged intercourse act because it
reduces sensitivity. In addition to this advantage, condoms prevent sexually
transmitted diseases and do not cause irritation in the vagina of the partner.
These preservatives retardants contain benzocaine inside them, which functions
as creams exiting sensitivity.
Sexual Position
The
type of sexual position also determines and affects the length capacity of
intercourse. The missionary position (man on top and woman underneath) is
considered the best position to control ejaculation. However, all men are
different but, in general, find more difficulty to control ejaculation when the
partner is in a position of control. But it also depends on each one; try
different positions according to what makes you feel better.
Technical Squeeze
This
technique may be practiced with your partner using the hand or mouth or even
alone. It will require great deal of trial and error before you will achieve
the ultimate perfection. This method helps in most cases of premature
ejaculation as long as both partners are willing to cooperate. Squeezing your
fingers on the penis decreases the desire to climax. You should practice this
method for a few weeks so you can control ejaculation.
Start
your sexual activity as usual, including stimulation of the penis, until you
feel almost ready to ejaculate.
Ask
your partner to shake the tip of his penis (do a sort of ring with the thumb
and the index finger and middle), the place where the glans (head) joins the
shaft of the penis and hold this grip for about 10 to 20 seconds until the feeling
of ejaculation pass.
After
using the initial technique of squeezing the penis, wait about 30 seconds
before trying to reach ejaculation. You will notice that when you press the
penis it will become less erect; but barely get sexual stimulation again, and your
penis will regain a new erection.
Start
the session again and when you are about to ejaculate again, ask your partner
to repeat the tightening process, pressing your penis firmly between the thumb
and the other two fingers.
By
practising this technique consistently, you can perfect the art of holding on
to your ejaculation. And, at this point you can start intercourse with your
partner without the fear of ejaculation.
Train the Pelvic Muscles
Well-developed
pelvic muscles allow better control and make you aware of what goes on in the adjacent
region. The lower pelvic muscles are used to stop and start the process of
urination. Contract these muscles for 4 seconds and relax them for 4 seconds,
repeating this ten times. You can do this anytime and anywhere.
Method for / Starts
A
man usually believes that a “real man” should always give sexual pleasure to a woman.
This kind of thinking is not only wrong, it is harmful. The method for / Starts
focuses on redirecting the kind of thinking that leads to premature
ejaculation. The method for / Starts aims to change this behavior: the man is
encouraged to masturbate using the technique of stop / start to gain more
control over their responses and his urge to ejaculate too fast.
Technique:
·
Masturbate alone;
·
Make time available to masturbate with dry hands;
·
Start stroking your penis almost to the point of ejaculation
and then stop;
·
You should do this 3 times;
·
The fourth time is allowed to ejaculate.
Once
you have achieved this measure of control, you can try masturbating with a wet
hand, it will give your penis a feeling more like the inside of the vagina.
Decrease Sexual Pressure
Many
men who suffer from premature ejaculation feel frustrated and often
embarrassed. Talk to a doctor or sex therapist is always a good idea because it
helps determine the cause of the problem, which can be physical or
psychological. While experiencing some treatment options, consider removing the
pressure of the sexual side of your relationship. Some doctors recommend
avoiding intercourse for a while and instead resort to other physical and
emotional pleasure rather than intercourse itself. Many women enjoy
penetration, but also feel great pleasure in foreplay, preferring often manual stimulation
or oral penetration. Making a connection in this way will help to re-establish
a physical link with the sexual partner. Removing the emphasis of intercourse
can remove the worry of ejaculating too soon - and can help create the
foundation for a more satisfying sexual relationship.
Final Thought
Premature
ejaculation can be controlled with patience, effort and knowledge. Find out:
this should be the first step. Recognizing your problem is half way to overcome
them. To solve the problem, mentally and physically, it is much easier when
both partners are involved, with full knowledge of the situation and open to
talk about it.
